I have a quick random question is it okay that your husband watches porn?? I want to be mad at him but I'm not sure if I…

I don't like my man to

no all men do it :)

it doesn't bother me as long as he is honest about it, but if he lies about it then that would be weird. men and women are just so different. men are all visual and women are about feeling. I don't prefer it but I know it's how guys are.

It's a fantasy thing for men. weird I know. but personally I'd rather him fulfill his fantasy through watching porn then going out in the real world and doing it.

lol @tysonnsmommy i dunno if id flip now earlier in marriage mayb now im like as long as when i want some u got some for me...im cool. but ten years and lots of hurt feelings later..ive adapted.

Personally...me and my hubby are sooooo close I can ask him why he's watching it or he'd tell me..if he was it wouldn't bother me..unless it was like Gay porn or something then I'd be like ummmmmm we need to talk!

men suck at times... i get u...just know many of us deal with crappy stuff like that...with kids its just not really possible to leave them cus they are shady so u gotta be patient and insist on change for a positive direction

u gotta talk with him and work together on being more sensitive to ur needs / i dont think he would like for u to b doing shady stuff like him

yeah I know he loves me it's just it hurts me that he's on that stuff! @yummycake

Even tho provoking him isnt the right thing to do.. If it wasnt me it wouldve been any other girl sooo i did it cause i felt like it

u gotta see what he brings to the table...in what way is he showing u love and support..and in which way do u want him to. if u feel ur competing for him ur not secure about his love i think..

lol I tried looking to see what it's called and it wouldn't say @paxviii

I did that once cause he was on this app called yik yak and i knew it was him and he wrote "i think im gonna delete this app cause my wife is crazy" and i wrote "if you dont delete that shit i will" and he never did it again 😂

Id personally go on the same site and make a profile and talk to him and ask his shit to provoke him and when he starts saying shit then you write to him as yourself lol

i didnt mean it like that jess.....im saying like libido needs...sex is not a comparison game between two people in love. if he loves u...he needs you not some top notch sex goddess...which u may b...im not...just gotta know u are perfext and if he loves u he will feel that way as well. if he doesnt it his problem..not yours. porn isnt ur competitor...its whether or not u feel loved by him.

Sorry im a little crazy but listen

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Thats some crazy shit i would do.

lol k lol I think I wanna call him by that nickname and see reaction @paxviii

Let him know that you know

Yessss deffinitely yes

lol I guess I should tell him something @paxviii

Youre his wife if you feel that way then you need to think twice about him before the baby is here. Trust me. Theres a lot of decisions i shouldve made when there wasnt a baby involved. Everybody has bullshit.

Ok then thats a whole diff story. Hes on a dating site? My husbands phone wouldnt be in a sewer by now and he wouldve been kicked out my house. But thats just me :)

that makes me feel as if I don't satisfy him I don't want that feeling it's like I'm competing with others just for his attention @yummycake

yeah i agree with paxvii...dont make it an issue..just get him in bed...so he gets satisfied and its less of a problem for him to not watch it ..

hahahaha no I like doing it lol it's just when I saw it it makes me not want to and yeah I know it creepy to me and well he's like getting messages saying about a dating site and stuff like he has a Nickname and everything @paxviii

Just be sweet about it and tell him it makes you sad and give him a puppy dog face and then go have sex so he can get over it lol

Omg youre my age lol yeah during pregnancies you might not want to. Me and my husband had sex like every day of my pregnancy and now since the baby came its been only 3 times in 2 months cause im scared tk get pregnant again so i understood a little but i still got mad

When porn is an addiction then its a problem but when its every now and then they just probably are in the mood and you arent or they feel bad asking for it cause they dont want to feel rejected

yeah but now I don't want to 😞@paxviii

No its not that. Have you guys had sex recently?

I also think he will continue to do it even if I do tell him @yummycake

yeah I think my husband will do the same but I like wanna know why he watches it I feel as if I'm not good enough or something @paxviii

well its bad...cus its self fufillment. obviously it will affect ur sex life especially if its excessive... but the reality is he will do it wether ur good with it or not...so why not tell him that u would prefer for him to not watch it too muxh.

at first i was embarassed and walked out of the room... Then i started bitching and told him i dont like it and he apologized.

I didnt care that my boyfriend did until we started living together. Then its like no im here you dont need that. I couldnt be mad when I saw it on his phone, wasnt snooping i was helping him on hid safari and went to close his pages for him and saw, but it did hurt my feelings seeing it. Its a really hard thing to know if you can be mad or not...

are just not saying anything about it? @arlyyrta_

yeah I just found out as well and not sure if to say something or what? @paxviii

I'm going thru the same thing, Idk how to feel about it

Honestly i didnt care about it when we were boyfriend and gf but now i just think its disgusting as a married couple and that brings bad energy to a marriage. Communication is the best thing to do. I didnt wanna care about it until i found it on his phone a month ago and almost cut his penis