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Desarae
First time mom.
Right now I am not working due to high risk but my fiance is. I was just thinking about after our baby is born what I should do. I want to be a stay at home mom for a bit because I just don't want to be without her but I also know I need to work and help support our family. However my biggest fear is having someone else watch her. I don't trust his mother because she has make it clear her priority is smoking and going out and my mother lives an hour from us. I am not comfortable with having a stranger watch her because when I was little I was raped and molested by my babysitters and even some family members (I was adopted at age 7) so after that I was safer. But I don't know what to do.. I know I need to work, but I don't know how to get over my fear... ugh!!!!
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lilmommapeaches

i was also raped by different family members i too know the issue. but since you want to stay home why don't you work from home that way you can work and be with your daughter. ..

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lilmommapeaches

i was also raped by different family members i too know the issue. but since you want to stay home why don't you work from home that way you can work and be with your daughter. ..

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scarlettnikol

i know how you feel. my first daughter was concieved by rape. i know the fears i know the issues it brings

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butterfly8415

@babymama1015, my fiance brings home about $1200 a month plus a bonus check about $1000+ but I don't feel like he should have to work for the both of us. and thank you. @scarlettnikol I just find it hard to look past my hard times. It scares me and I feel that will cloud my judgement and I could miss a great sitter due to me being so closed minded. My fiance is in the same boat and has been molested himself so he wants me as a stay at home but Idk... it feels wrong.

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butterfly8415

@babymama1015, my fiance brings home about $1200 a month plus a bonus check about $1000+ but I don't feel like he should have to work for the both of us. and thank you. @scarlettnikol I just find it hard to look past my hard times. It scares me and I feel that will cloud my judgement and I could miss a great sitter due to me being so closed minded. My fiance is in the same boat and has been molested himself so he wants me as a stay at home but Idk... it feels wrong.

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scarlettnikol

im like that with my daughter but i had to get over my fear so i could give her a great life her aunt watches her is i never need a babysitter but there is nothing wrong with babysitters. give them interviews and background checks listen to your heart and tou will find the perfect person.

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floridamommy1024

To start, I'm so sorry about what happened I can't even imagine. I know you are traumatized. Especially these days I would never trust just a random stranger. I have a high risk also since I'm 17 but I ALSO just had 8 brain surgeries in the last two years. I want to work after baby but I can't leave her/him with anyone especially his mom . She's a heavy smoker and is very addicted to narcotics. NOT something I'll allow my kid around. Try to see how long your boyfriend can support you even though it sucks. My fiancé works full time and has a lot of financial help from his family ( yes it's embarrassing and sucks but have to do what is good for us). Hope everything works out (:

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