I feel like I keep putting myself in these situations with my child's father.. Part of me is holding…

I know how you feel!!! I just recently found out im pregnant with #5. I have 2 from a previous relationship when i was a teen. And i have 2 with my current bf or well ex bf as he just left me because im pregnant. I have been on depo since 2013 after having our second but yet he acts like i some how made the depo shot stop working to get pregnant or something. His reasoning is because i wont get an abortion and he never wanted kids. But yet we already have 2 together. Its so hard not to try to talk to him right now but he hasnt even attempted to contact me in 2 days so im guessing hes happpy that hes away from me. Well lets see how happy he is when court makes him pay child support for 3 kids dam men!!

@mamaoffour86, most days I'm really good at being positive. I've only just realized those are the days that I have minimal contact with him. He has some way of always "dragging" me and making me feel like I'm going crazy. Like idk... I'm really sorry about your situation. Smh some guys are complete dicks. When it comes time to wet their dicks they have no problem but then it's an issue after. I honestly hate guys like that. They want a relationship for definite *puassay but can't ever act responsible. But te problem is def me. Smh. I need to stop looking for te best in people

@trezelle, that's my problem, I always think the best of him and just feel so let down and heart broken when he shows me other wise. It's easy to blame ourselves for expecting the best of them when we already know how they are. But we can't help it, we love them and can't think any other way. Stay positive.

@lilymama, I just need to just stop talking to him for a while. Everything I say to him is bad or a problem. I'm so over the guys I attract... Sometimes I ask myself what's wrong with me? Smh

You aren't stupid. You're a woman who was in love with someone who hurt you. We all go through the back and forth. But you know the truth and why it didn't work out. Chances are, those reasons aren't going to change. But it's ultimately up to you what role you want him to play in your life and the life of your little one. Give it to God.

@queeneden, I do give it to God I promise. Some days I am so much stronger. I think I was so high from seeing my baby yesterday (he came with) and he seem like he wasn't as much of an asshole... But then went right back today. I don't get it.. I don't expect him to be perfect but everything we have a conversation it ends up turning into an argument on his part. Like I cannot say anything to him without him taking it in the worst way ever. Smh... It kills my confidence sometimes. Like I know I'm pretty and all of that but I feel so freaking ugly and crazy. Smh Jesus take the wheel

I know how that feeling. It's still fresh and it's a process. Honestly, it's going to be a long time before you find a solution. Once a child is involved, everything changes. What you want and deserve versus who you're dealing with is a hard pill to swallow. The relationship may end up working but it really may not and end up being just a coparenting situation. It took me years to let go of my expectations of my twins dad and just accept him for who he was. A loser. You're strong and smart. You'll get through it eventually. Just give it time and space. You know you can't force him to be someone else. He is who he is. Don't stress yourself.

@queeneden, I know I'll be ok. I know my baby will be ok. I just need to continue trusting God. I'm not going to give this guy the opportunity to see me crush I'm going to keep working hard and doing me. Your advice always helps I swear' we will be ok

I'm glad I can help. It's a tough situation but God has promised to bring us through and to guide us during the journey. We will absolutely be OK and so will our beautiful babies. 😙

@queeneden, yes I trust God and his promise.