Ok so i need some serious advise... Long story short my husband and I have been married a year and a…

ask him about it ask him if he ever stopped or ask to go through his phone?

if you want I can give you my number and we can talk? @landon1002

if he continues to do it, there's no stop coming. if there isn't anything in his mind that tells him that his actions are not okay, there's a problem there. and you two are married. he should act committed. I'm sorry you're going through this :( some men are just beyond cold hearted

I ask to use his phone to just call my mom and he feels the need to dial her number for me... like he dont even let me touch his phone to even it on a song if we driving... And when I ask him if he stopped he makes a huge fight that i keep bringing up the past and then it escalates to him telling me he done with my childish attitude and that i can figure out how to fend for myself and that i owe half of rent or utilities or whatever bill due around the time of the fight...

Sad part is he has 2 weeks training left then comes home for 2 weeks then leaves to korea for training for 6 weeks then is home to see baby born maybe and gets deployed only days after baby is born...

Trust your gut. As negative as it sounds unfortunately every time I had nagging/ confusing feelings toward a man my gut was right 99.9% of the time. I suggest to write down the actions he does that make you feel like this then ask him. no matter how small the action is I know if I didn't ask it I'd have lingering feelings afterwards. if he denies everything then don't stress yourself out the truth will come out just like you found out about what he did before you got married. then at that time you can decide if everything you've been through is worth it to stay.

I would get a divorce. you don't need that kind of stress in your life and I don't think you want your baby to be in that kind of stress either. I'm just putting in my 2 cents so

I agree trust your gut, a woman's intuition never fails, I'm really sorry to hear this happened and I hope you figure out what's best for you, ❤️

My gut says im over reacting and that he has changed that's the other problem... but my mind is whats like why wont he let me use his phone but he types in my moms number for me and idk to think if he being nice or hiding something. Its so hard cause its mixed signals but b4 he wouldnt hold my hand or even like put his arm around me and now he will put his hand on my lower back in a store or hold my hand in the car well when he not shifting. And at night he will come by me and like hold me till i fall asleep or he rubs my belly but thats the only time he even acts like there a baby that does exist inside me.

sorry if my messages are are all over. my anxiety has been super high and my emotions are beyond messed up!!! and i have PTSD so that doesent help my reactions cause im not medicated

honestly he hasn't changed he won't. some men just cheat. he sounds like one of those men I'm so sorry. him getting mad at u for bringing it up Is a for sure guilty sign. he cheated on u for a year u have a right to ask as many times as u want. and I would say let me see your phone or u don't need one. there should be no secrets in a marriage. I'd break the Dam thing. sounds like your In denial Hon. I'm sorry. its the worst thing a man can do to u. u need to fine u a new man who will treat u the way u deserve. I know its easier said than done. please Dont get mad I just have serious issues with cheaters. its not right. u deserve better. break that phone lol

I'm sorry but he won't change especially if he was doing it before and after marriage the baby won't make him change.. Especially if there's problems with you trying to check his Phone. If he didn't have nothing to hide he'd just hand it over. Maybe your mind is the one trying to help you make a wise choice in knowing what your seeing.. He hasn't changed maybe he's showing interest in your pregnancy and all but that doesn't mean he's a changed man. And keep your mind open because he may try and play you for a fool having you believed he changed so he can get away with what he does best.. Sorry Hun but it's by experience; I felt like I read my history with an ex on here .. No lie.. And I realized way to late wasted so much time that could of been used on someone who actually respected me and the marriage we could have.

Seems like all the signs are there what more do you need ? You ask him all he's going to do is lie well at least that what it sounds like . And he's gone for an hour and comes back to take a shower ? What he was doing running a marathon ? Lol he memorized numbers ? No one haven't done that since the 90s girl do what you have to do for you and your marriage and sanity . Me I'm too strong for all the bs he would've been out since I found out he cheated over seas .