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Melissa Balcombe

Ladies I have a question, do you care if your hubby looks at porn, pictures of other girls naked or sends pictures of…

Ladies I have a question, do you care if your hubby looks at porn, pictures of other girls naked or sends pictures of other girls naked back and forth between him and a friend?

Just dealing, for the second time, with my hubby doing all three of those things and I'm so uncomfortable with it. It makes me feel like I'm not enough. Does he really need to look at those other girls?

It makes me wonder what he thinks about when we make love and mess around and stuff, me? Or those other girls?😔

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meganc

meganМама двоих (младенец)

Great! I hope the best for y'all and I hope he overcomes it

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santistevanmommie

Shawna SantistevanВ ожидании первенца

That's really great! I'm happy it's working out for you! 😊😊

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momof1and1ontheway

momof1and1onthewayМама сына (4 года), беременна (16 нед.)

Happy you two were able to talk it out. Communication is Key! good luck to you!!!!

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missing70user

missing70userМама сына-младенца

I'm happy u guys were able to talk it thru It great that he's man enough admit it. Your guy will do fine 😊😊

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missing117user

missing117userМама дочки (8 лет), беременна (26 нед.)

@itscatt, That's great and like I always tell ppl communication is the key to any relationship. I'm glad he understood and I'm glad he was able to share y he watches it all the time.

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itscatt

Melissa Balcombe

@babydavis915, @momof1and1ontheway @meganc @kimberlyyyy @santistevanmommie @mommyofaking @imbecca143 update; I talked to him last night about it and he broke down and admitted he's had a problem looking at pictures of girls since he was six and has even gone to groups and classes on how to stop. His brothers first marriage ended because his wife caught him looking at porn and then one of his own relationships ended the same way and he doesn't want to lose me to that, so he agreed to stop looking at pictures of other girls and stop looking at porn. If he has a temptation he's gonna tell me so we can do something to distract him from it. And about him sending pictures of girls back and forth with his friend, he said his friend saw a picture of a girl who looked like his ex so he showed my hubby to compare. Well I told him that's very disrespectful to me on his part and his friends and I told him I would rather he not talk to that friend anymore. He agreed so hopefully that friend is out of the picture.

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imbecca143

imbecca143В ожидании первенца

I think you need to make it clear you don't like it, I understand men look at porn but if your dating me in my opinion it's a form of cheating, I don't like it, and he wouldn't like it if it were me saying no to sex with him because I wanted to watch porn or anything like that, it hurts my feelings and if my bf can't accept that then I don't see our relationship going past bf/gf I'm going to marry someone who respects how I feel.

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missing70user

missing70userМама сына-младенца

I don't mind my bf looking at porn shit most of the time we watch it together 😝 looking at naked pic of girl?? Mmm let's see if someone he doesn't know & can't get in contact with I'm cool. If it some chick down the street it's a problem. To each it own. If u don't like it talk to him.

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kimberly_preemie-mom

Kimberly Мама сына (3 года), беременна (21 нед.)

@itscatt well don't have sex yet because it's too soon for that, but maybe there's some other things you can do to get him off enough to where he doesn't need porn. Or maybe you can be ok with him giving himself pleasure while your tell him what you would want to do to him so you're involved but you don't have to do any of the work. Lol. I told my fiancé he can masterbate since I'm usually too sick to have sex (I'm 10 weeks along) but I still do things to him at times. Men are men. They need theirs so hopefully you two can find middle ground. Don't feel rushed to do anything with him though. And it's normal to be insecure especially right after birth. You're still the woman he chose to be with. 😘 good luck.

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santistevanmommie

Shawna SantistevanВ ожидании первенца

@itscatt, if he doesn't tell him you'll start doing it without him and see how he feels then. I asked my fiancé how he would feel if I was doing it without him and he immediately seen why I felt the way I did

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itscatt

Melissa Balcombe

@santistevanmommie, that's exactly how I feel :( I hope my hubby understands

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santistevanmommie

Shawna SantistevanВ ожидании первенца

I went through this with my fiancé watching porn. I don't even have a really good reason why it hurts me it just does. And although he didn't fully understand why I felt the way I did he hasn't watched porn without me since we spoke about it. I explained to him I felt like I wasn't enough. And how it made me cry thinking he didn't want me anymore.

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itscatt

Melissa Balcombe

@kimberlyyyy, I can't be too active in bed tho because I just had our son 2 weeks ago.. That's also why this whole situation sucks.. I can't even distract him with myself

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kimberly_preemie-mom

Kimberly Мама сына (3 года), беременна (21 нед.)

I would go off on him. But every man is different, every relationship is different. I would feel betrayed but not everyone would. If it bothers you, tell him. Then try to be more active in bed together. I went full blown crazy over this bitch sending my fiancé a picture of her covered up in underwear and he send a picture back in boxers (no boner) but I was PISSED and I considered tracking that grimy bitch down & introducing her face into some concrete but it's not worth the jail time away from my son. I would definitely tell him that's F'd up to do though.

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momof1and1ontheway

momof1and1onthewayМама сына (4 года), беременна (16 нед.)

I honestly when on doctor phil lol and found reason why looking porn is cheating. and he has some good points about how we feel when our men look at porn. I sent it to my husband and we talked about it. I woukd confront him. Hope it goes well! :) good luck!

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missing117user

missing117userМама дочки (8 лет), беременна (25 нед.)

@itscatt, I don't mind watching porn with my SO and I don't mind him watching it without me. I don't even mind him going to a strip club bc I know if I try to stop him all he's going to do is go anyway so I rather tell him its fine but when it come time for me to go out with my friends don't get mad. Maybe you need to sit him down and explain to him how it is affecting you all relationship and see what he says bc if he respects you he would at least stop sharing the naked photos.

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meganc

meganМама двоих (младенец)

Porn is one thing, especially maybe if y'all were to watch it together. But no sending naked pics between him and a friend is a big deal, and what makes it say they aren't real girls they are getting the pics from? Ya know what I mean. If anyway to ruin a girls selfesteem would be to do what he is doing. I am sorry girl I would describe to him how it makes you feel and see if it changes anything

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itscatt

Melissa Balcombe

@momof1and1ontheway, I hope my hubby learns soon because I'm about to confront him about it soon.

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momof1and1ontheway

momof1and1onthewayМама сына (4 года), беременна (16 нед.)

My husband watched porn and looked at pictures. It felt like he was cheating. So i confronted him. Got him to realize it from my point of view and he understood. But it took a few times of me catching him for me to blow up.

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itscatt

Melissa Balcombe

@babydavis915, that's another thing, he wouldn't like it. But he knows I wouldn't because I've just never been the type to look at porn or do anything like that so it wouldn't really work to ask him that :(

He would just tell me what I wanna hear

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missing117user

missing117userМама дочки (8 лет), беременна (25 нед.)

I don't mind the porn videos but sending pictures back and forth between friends is a BIG HELL NO! You should ask him how would he feel if you and your friends were doing the same thing. That's just down right rude of him to even do that.

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