So I really need some advice and no judgement. To teen mom's; a police officer came to my house yesterday.. my boyfriend is 21 and I'm 17 soon to be 18 on June 25th and we do live together in the house my dad bought for us. When I had my baby on May 2nd the hospital said they had to report it. My parents and his are well aware considering they are now grandparents and very supportive even though maybe not approving. After the cop came over and talked with me and my mom he went to my boyfriend's work and talked with him and my dad (who my boyfriend called to come be with him when the cop was on his way there). I'm so scared, I'm having trouble sleeping at night, I can barely eat and all I do is cry thinking they're going to take baby Apollo's daddy away from us and he's going to lose his job. They haven't called me or come back to the house yet but the suspense is tearing me apart. Any similar situations and outcomes out there? I really need someone to tell me we're going to be okay.
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@jennyleigh, anytime. I figured a our real life scenario would help ease your mind a bit!
@awn0710, thank you that makes me feel so much better!
They aren't going to do anything. As long as your parents give consent for you to be with him. Yall could legally get married at this point with parental consent. Something like this has happened in my family. The boy was 18. Girl was 15. Got pregnant. Had baby at 16. All was fine because she nor her parents wanted or agreed to pressing charges. Just breath!
Do you k of the age of consent for the state you live in? That might help your situation out.
As long as your parents (because you're still a minor) and you are okay with it they can't do anything about it. My old friend was 15 and her boyfriend was 19 and they had a baby and he never went to jail for it.
@squizzy843, thank you, I know I can't get an exact answer but I really do appreciate everyone's reassurance. I guess the cops are the only ones who can decide what happens.
In their eyes you are technically still a minor. And your boyfriend is considered a man. I thinks it's about 4 years that they consider statutory rape. It may vary state to state. In your case your parents know and you mentioned that your dad bought you guys a house. So I don't think it's too much law enforcement can do. You guys should be fine. Good luck though.
That's odd im 16 and my boyfriend is 19 he turns 20 in December but we have been together since he was 17 and i was 14 i just had my baby girl and we have no problem with the state or cops?!
I havent heard of anything similar to this but wish you the best of luck ☺️ hope youre little family stays together because now you your bf and baby are a family now and y'all need each other more than ever. May God be on yalls side :)
what's done is done, the baby is here, all they can do is tear apart a happy family.
@alicia3_21, I know. he was so bad. he kept asking the same question over and over until I got confused and I lied. my mom gave me a look and I didn't even know what I had said wrong. she got so mad at him, why would he want me to lie? he did the same thing to my boyfriend like trying to get him to lie about something he had given an honest answer to.
@roark1995, I figured as much. I didn't think they could do anything if nobody pressed charges but I guess the state child press charges for breaking the law. I just want the baby to be with his dad. We both told the cop the same thing when he asked why we did what we did and we said we genuinely care about each other. We didn't get together because I was younger or he was older, we did it because we loved each other, if we didn't we wouldn't have risked starting the family we have now and are still devoted to.
your old enough already... n ur parents are okay just tell them to leave u alone...
what a rude cop. they need to chase actual criminal s
there is many answers to every statement made. I've been in your situation before. although I lost the baby at 9 weeks pregnant. everything was fine. the cop himself told me that they cannot do anything without your or your parents consent. if they do, you can go to court.
that's why I don't say anything about my baby's father... they don't need to know my business... it's my life my parents are okay with it... n they will stop bugging u when u guys are married...
@roark1995, I'm just worried because he kept saying over and over that it was against the law. which I knew but still.. he asked how many times we had had sex and I told him I honestly couldn't give him a number so about once a week, my boyfriend said he asked that to stack charges. I told him if they take him away from his baby they're going to hell, and I'm going to send them there! :(
you are going to be just fine. the cops cannot do anything unless you yourself or your parents have a problem with the father. its your say so verses any one else's. the cops can't do anything unless you tell them that he raped you or you don't want him in your life. look up minor laws when it comes to having a baby with an older boyfriend.
@awn0710, that's exactly what I was looking for