I would leave him then . That's not an excuse . My boyfriend is older than me but when he had his oldest son . He worked and went to school and took his baby to school with him . His BM worked at the time as well . But my boyfriend was a good father . He took his son to school with him at Cal State La . And he worked full time . There's no excuses !!

@michealsmommy, if you talk to him & get him to admit he's scared at least he'll be opening up to you & that's a huge factor as well. you'll be able to help him & encourage him then maybe he'll see he can do it & start helping.

@parkers_mommy, I could try that but like you said he's scared he's been around bay before but it's nothing like your own @elenaj I could do better and I don't need stress around my son. @blueberrybrewing yeah I'm trying everything. I talked with him and everything

I'm a first time mom. It's hard to be a stay at home mom and he works. He said I work I need rest I work all day. I'm like wtf and I need a break!

@michealsmommy, an ultimatum to decide whether he wants to be part of your family and contribute to what has to go into raising a baby, or to leave. I know this is much easier said than done, but it'll be a regret if you get stuck in the same cycle of waiting for him change.

@blueberrybrewing, what

I would talk to him but if that doesn't help you need to move on . Some men are hands on while others are not helpful nor feel it's their job to help with the baby . Your son is 3 months . He has had time . Move on . You can do bad by yourself .

some guys gets scared & that's not an excuse to not take care of his kid but some guys think once the baby starts crying they already failed. we had 9 months to experience this little one growing inside of us, we had time to plan for this but the guys just one day walk into a hospital & the next they are daddy & a baby is placed into their arms & most of them have to learn to be a dad. yes they knew for 9 months there would be a baby but they never got to experience what we did. have you tried sitting down with him & talking about why he doesn't help or why he acts the way he does? some guys are like little kids & need to be told when they're doing something right with the baby especially if they haven't been around a baby before. I say sit down & have a heart to heart, try not to fight/argue but tell him everything that bothers you... ask what's bothering him. that's how I got it out of my man that our hospital visits for our son scare him, I full on came out & asked if they did & he finally admitted that's why he watches movies while we're there, to help keep his mind occupied. I'd be pissed if I was you, but try talking to him & see if it helps.

Like wgat

Maybe give him an ultimatum ?