I gotta question: how should I feel about my boyfriends baby mom wanting to be friends and take him out and stuff ?…

no problem! good luck!

hell yeah it is @firefly

@firefly, @rlcorreia123 thanks guys !!

Definantly don't blame yourselves if she won't allow you guys to make it work. Which is really a shame, because it's the kids that suffer, not the adults. but definantly don't blame yourselves. She is an adult, so she needs to act like one. That includes being respectful and knowing her place. She is the only one responsible for her actions. No one else. Good on you two for doing your best to do the right thing

@kera96 anyways best of luck with everything, just make sure you and your partner have open communication about it. :) I have a step son and somtimes it is hard, like @rlcorreia123 said some people act immature or the non parent over steps, it's a delicate balance.

@I agree, it can be. If adults don't know how to be adults. @firefly

@rlcorreia123 it can be difficult.

@rlcorreia123 I'm so glad I talked to you lol cause this was really on my mind

sounds like if it isnt going to work, it is going to be her fault, not you and your mans

exactly. there is no reason to exclude anyone.

@rlcorreia123 yes exactly ! For my age I'm very mature and he's very mature also , but she's still young minded , but we going to try to make this work together I even told him to tell her to invite her boyfriend , why exclude anyone out ?

or people that don't know their boundaries. sounds like this particular baby mama doesn't know what respectful boundaries are. It's good that your man agrees that if she isn't inviting you, that it doesn't need to happen.

having a blended family isn't difficult. the only thing that makes it difficult is adults who don't know how to be mature and leave the past where it belongs. @firefly

she sounds like a snake in the grass. she isn't his womyn. she doesn't need to be taking him out on fathers day. thats your job. not hers.

@steph__x0x0, he said he just can have a basic friendship like hi how are you ? And leave it at that , he doesn't fall for her tricks cause she tried so many times , he just call her bullshit , but he said he wanted to spend Father's Day with me and just get his son ..

@steph__x0x0, she wants to take him out for Father's Day , how she don't know I don't have nothing plan with him ? And that's around the time i will be due any day after 37 weeks

@firefly explain please lol before I make a mistake cause I can get jealous fast

Having a blended family can be complacited.

@rlcorreia123, I just told him that it should be all of us now , & agreed and said next time he talk to her he would tell her that and if she decline he not going

@rlcorreia123 @firefly exactly I was going to say that , it's not just yall three anymore it's actually 5 of us now lol so we all should be going out even though the baby still cooking

If you are excluded in that family outing, there is a problem.

I'd say this should not be haooeninghappening

If you can all work as a familu unit, that's great. That's good for the kids. Not good if you are being excluded.

You are a better womyn than me. I would be like no. If it isn't all of us (that means you too) then no. lol. I mean you are having kids with this man, which means your step son has a sibling on the way. You are his family too

@rlcorreia123 yes I mean she never even let him get his son for the past 2 Father's Day now she wanna do a family outing , I'm just not for it & I don't think he is going to go , and she tells him tell her I'm not trying to take you from her and I just wanna friends and that her boyfriend is okay with them going out & I'm like no but forreal its up to him

I think an ex taking your partner out is just crossing the line, period. baby mom or not. being friendly sure. my husbands sons mother and I get along great, we talk on the phone once a day, and make sure my step sons doing well, but she doesn't take my husband out either.