I still can't shake the feeling of not wanting my son around my bfs family. Not all of them just a few. It pisses me off…

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Thanks so much for your awesome advice!! I def will do so!!! @brittneilynn21

keep talking to your boyfriend about your concerns. perhaps he will start to see how he doesn't want his child to be without you ever having to disrespect his family or speak harshly about them. in reality, it's not about them. it's about doing whats best for your child. if you compromise to please people when it comes to your child, you will very well might end up regretting it. but I made my decisions without consulting the family I no longer speak to. I'm not asking people to change because they will be who they want to be especially when you aren't around and you decide to leave your child with them. just think about that as well. your boyfriend might not see it at first but after a while my husband understood. we live 3000 miles away from all of them now and my side doesn't even have my contact info so it hasn't been an issue. I don't know if it needs to be that extreme in your case. i just know if you are feeling this way, it must be a big deal. just encouraging you to stick to whatever you feel is best no matter what because society and people will make you feel like you are depriving your kids but certainly you wouldn't be. :)

that's true but if its your boyfriend just be careful how you word things. I've had that battle with my husband . his family is hood.. my husband doesn't act that way but that's his background. && I feel I only want Mt son around certain family members of his.. I didn't grow up around drug deals && stuff so I feel some how I just have to keep those visits limited.. no sleep overs or anything but like I said It will be hard because I know my husband will notice I don't want our son around his family much... most of his cousins are in jail or are heading down that route. I will not allow my son to be exosoded to that

Exactly. I just dnt wanna hurt anyone's feelings that's my biggest thing especially my bf. But I'm just so tired of the comments n I feel like they shouldn't feel so entitled to have a place bc my thing is you weren't even nice to me so why should I let u c my son? You aren't his mother so I dnt have to let you in at all. @sexii_diiva

girl I've learned that blacks don't like people to do better then them.. I got teased && called that as well... then I grew up && realized they ghetto && how they carry themselves... I don't wanna carry myself like that && my son is gonna be proper && not gonna know nothing about that hood shyt... he will not be another Michael Brown victim

Exactly!!!!!! They talk about how I talk white n I'm stuck up bc I have nice stuff like omg stfu honestly @sexii_diiva

why is proper a bad thing? proper is a good thing

Omg if I could frame your comment I would!!!! I swear this is perfect! I feel bad bc I know my bf may be upset if I say something bc it's his mom n sister. But I just am so not feeling it. I try to suck it up when they say they wanna see him but it makes me mad bc I know what they r gonna do to him when he can finally walk n talk they r gonna try n turn him into them n hell no that isn't happening @brittneilynn21

ha! my son doesn't see any extended family anymore and I don't feel bad not one little bit. this certainly was the case for.me.too like you are explaining. extended family in their lives is nice but mom and dad is the necessity. trust me, your child will be fine if you keep him or her away from bad influences and some extended family. regardless of.what they think and.feel, your child is likely better off. I've seen way too many instances of extended family members being the cause of issues in kids and for what because we live in a society where people think extended family is entitled to a.relationship with a child? Do.what is best for your children. it might save their lives!