Everyone is saying it's too early for me to get excited about my pregnancy because a lot of first trimester pregnancies end in miscarriage. all I want to do is be happy and enjoy my growing body. they also suggest I not tell family till after 3 months. What is everyone's opinion on this? I'm just so frazzled by it.
What's funny is when I did miscarry I ended up going public with it but it was after I had time to process the grief. I still consider my first a baby even though he/she didn't make it.
its your decision... think positive but I told close friends && family... && once I made 3 months I announced it to social media -& anyone else that wanted to know!, but even after 3 months you're still not necessarily safe.... people can push out a stillborn baby. you just never know.. but good luck to you
@may24th, I agree it's just the consequences I guess I'm thinking very far ahead
Yeah my biggest thing was showing my mom that I can do this intelligently and successfully. I could honestly care less what the school knows but would rather it be on the DL for now. I won't show most likely by the time we graduate so I'm really lucky on that part.
I found out at 2-3week's and told everyone then. but every one has their own way
@tb2881, EVENTUALLY the looks and gossip will subside. my boyfriend and sister go to the same high school so it was spreading around there that I was pregnant. we shot it down as a rumor though. but its crucial to find support. I know for me when I first found out I was so upset as my parents would say these nasty things and my friends weren't any help. but now that everyone sees that I'm trying to make a living and doing what I can they're more supportive. :)
I miscarried in September after telling everyone on Facebook. I was soooo heartbroken but now I'm pregnant again! I'm 16 weeks and haven't said anything :o
Yeah and I see both sides it's just hard to pick one. I think after my ultrasound I'll see my most deciding factor and most likely I'll wait it out.
@tb2881, not at all! that baby is still a part of you and its a special connection that you've started. yes its extremely sad if a miscarriage happens but I agree with you if people know you're pregnant and you miscarry I would tell them on your time that way they don't pop up out of the blue and ask how the baby is and you have to go through an emotional explanation
truly, you should wait to tell people. IF you did miscarry it will be so much harder for you to tell everyone, you will be sad enough already you don't want to have to lay it on other peolel.
but by all means be happy!! and all in all its your choice. I didn't tell anyone tell 11 weeks. I had a girlfriend who miscarried at 12 weeks and she already told everyone...and I saw how much more it hurt her to have to tell everyone she was no longer pregnant.
Yeah @14emathews I've had the "what have you done" verbally and the looks thrown at me . it sucks lol. but exactly and I'm kinda looking into myself on what's the most mature decision for me and my close family.
see I was scared that I'd have a miscarriage since my mom had one her first time around but I just took care of my body and baby to the best of my ability. now I'm 14 weeks along and over the moon. my friends and family know and while at first it was like "omg beth what have you done?" they're more accepting. being a teen mom is rough but you're gonna need the support :)
In my honest opinion, and I know it may clash with some, I believe that people should know even if I miscarry. Like say I tell my grandmother, that's still her great grandchild. that's still an unborn baby. I still believe, miscarriage or not, that makes me a mother. it doesn't mean I got to experience the full effect but I got to begin creating a being and it was of my bloodline and created through the love of my significant other and i. Idk maybe I'm weird
so good thing I waited to say the news . b happy . announce it if you like.. but at 3 months your chances of miscarriage are lower but a miscarriage is inevitable .
I miscarried my first pregnancy at 5 1/2 weeks and you know what.. I was still so excited for this pregnancy. I only told close family and friends until after the first trimester though.. Do what makes you comfortable.
they do that . you have to wait till you are 3 months. that's what I did because I had a miscarriage before .but with this baby I announced it when i was 10 weeks . and at the beginning I also had complications and thought I would have a miscarriage imagine I don't wanna tell everyone I'm pregnant next day I lost it .
Yeah I'm one year younger, I won't turn 18 until after I birth so it's even more on the down low. but it sucks because yeah it may not be the best time but it's still my first child and I still want to have all the glories and imperfections of a grown woman's pregnancy.
@tb2881, no problem! at first my mom was like tell NO ONE since I'm only 18. but I couldn't help myself. its my pregnancy and I told the people I trust. most of them have been happy for me and enjoy hearing my updates :)
@14emathews, exactly! I was the same way! @tb2881 and you should to! Don't listen to all the negatives!
@kgonza87, @14emathews thank you both, at least I have some people supporting my same belief
I was excited by my first doctors appointment and just couldn't keep quiet about it. embrace the moment and don't worry about the what ifs
Exactly! Be happy and don't think like that think positive! And just pray baby is ok.
@kgonza87, that's what I keep thinking because stress doesn't help in any way eith Ed
I'm definitely with you on that