Try sittin with him and having a serious talk about how you feel about the whole situation. And how you don't want your daughter to be around the drama. I hope he understands :)

Yes we have very open communication. It took a couple months for that to happen but now we are really good. Yeah it's really hard when they try making things complicated but it's best to ignore her and try not to let her get to you. I wouldn't be worried to much about your daughter seeing anything. Just keep the negativity away from her:) hopefully things get better for you :)

@lovelyadre thank you! I love my step son but like I said it's his mother sometimes when I do get really upset with his mother's actions it's hard to not look at my step son and be angry. But he is not to blame it is her and my husband for not doing the correct thing by having visitations legal and her being the primary residence. I just feel.like now I am concerned with what my daugther.will.see when she's born yah know

@lovelyadre topher and I get along great! my step son it's his mother who drives me.up a.damn wall and makes me upset with my husband

Do you and your husband have open communication about what is said between him and your step daughters mother?

I think if you try an get closer to his son, the boy will change. His daughter is starting to change a little because I make an effort to show her I care about her dad and her. You will see a change in his behavior and attitude. You are basically his mom when he's with you he probably wants your love.

It's hard when the dad is clueless at times. As far as the mom of the kid, I would try not to give her much importance. Do not let her affect your marriage! She is not worth it. If I were you, I would really put my foot down with going to court. Don't let him have an option tell him it's something he is going to do.

Honestly idk it's hard! But I have to step back and think, his kid is very important and his happiness is what I care about. So even though at times I struggle with his kid and have some hard feeling toward her, I suck it up and help out. I treat her the way I would want someone to treat my kid.

@lovelyadre and it continues how do you deal with your situation I'm trying really hard to not think about it but it's getting worse

@lovelyadre wow! that is crazy i don't think I could handle that.

I am 100% in the same boat except my stepdaughter is not his biological daughter. He found out when she was 2 and decided to stay. At times I get so annoyed and frustrated because he also does not discipline her or anything. She is a brat and thinks she can get whatever she wants. I never planned on being with someone who has a kid but yet here I am lol it's hard because I want his full attention to be towards his actual child. I hate my pregnancy being compared to his exs. There are times I do resent his daughter. And she opened up a child support case when I got pregnant. I hate that woman!

@steph__x0x0 she's a nut! We have him right now and she's posting pictures on social media of him as of she has him right now. I don't get her at all.

@steph__x0x0 I just want too know 100% that is his child and go to court, so she can't be like yes you get him then last minute no like she does and have us drive over 14 hrs to get him

@steph__x0x0 piss' me off. Children need structure and rules

@steph__x0x0 he acts up really bad with us to and we barely get to see him, and of course his dad let's him get away with it because he wants him to have a good time and we are with my in laws so there like you can't change him in a week. I want to go home so bad!

@mommy3rmz I keep telling him to its making me so mad! He's like I hate how they have him call.his mom's bf dad go to court then! I said I don't want to hear anymore about it you know what you need to do so do it!

@mama_bear I'm going to try to but it's really hard when your not in your own home or have any of your friends or family around.

just do your best to get the day over with ♡ that's what I do. hormones suck.

of course shes likeing the $$ n honestly he should get it doneto make u feel comfortable and so he knows 100% just because he thinks he looks like him has nothing to do with it i had a friend who kept saying her bf was the babydaddy because baby looked like him but in my eyes he never did n one day he asked for a DNA test because he found out she had been messing around with an ex at that time n yupp sure enough the ex was the daddy so her current bf filed court against her n she had to pay back everything he gave her it was crazy it was like a maury show episode lol and i live in fort morgan Colorado :)

@mommy3rmz it never got done he is four will be five. The girl has no reason to she gets 500$ every month why would she? And he has no excuse says he looks just like me. I don't think so but looks don't matter. Where do you live?

Yes I did towards the end of my pregnancy, had my baby and I feel like a whole new person. Don't worry, it goes away

@bellamama09 well court for visitations so she can't tell us when and when we can't have him which she does! yeah I looked it up 30$ and 140$ or something like that for results i told him he should do it while we have him but of course it hasn't been done. He just got all pissy and asked if I think everyone should do this and I said YES! If you were not married or dating then yes you should!

@firefly, here where i live its manditory to get DNA test done before any of the process because of so many false accused lol but what dont he want to do it ?? or if the girl the one who dont want to ?

He can do an at home DNA test actually no need to go thru court unless it proves it isn't his.

@mama_bear hormones and built up anger is what I'm thinking. I just want to lock myself in a room today and cry. Also I am at my in-laws in GA with my step son and husband. So yeah, not the best thing right now.

@bellamama09 me too, I would never give someone I was not married to or dating the benefit of doubt or how ever the saying goes. Makes me so f***ING mad. And now I am starting to resent my step son. I know it is not his fault, and I feel extremely bad about that. But my husband needs to get his add in gear or its seriously going to wreck our marriage. I already feel like I made a big mistake now. I don't want my daughter to have to deal with all this drama to see her brother if that is her brother. And my husband let's her walk all over him because there is nothing in court! It's completely moranic!

It's the hormones, everything he does annoys me lol sometimes I just scream at him to tell him to Stfu! but later on I feel bad, so I apologize. he doesn't really get mad at me, cuz he understands. But he gets back at me by singing really loud lmao

@firefly, Oh hell yeah! But maybe he's in denial? But it's possible that's just wow to me

@mommy3rmz @bellamama09 i want to scream at him! I want him to get a DNA test for his first born this was supposed to be done before we got married. It was a one night stand and she got pregnant four years ago. Honestly in my mind normal people go to court and get a DNA test to make sure the child is yours before forking out child support and becoming attached to a child.

me hun! i am guilty of wanting ro choke him on certain days 👊

@firefly, I think it's our hormones cuz I almost chocked my fiancé last night for what seemed like no reason after I calmed down

@bellamama09 that is good to know at some points I feel bad.

@firefly, You are not alone