Good morning! I need some real advice right now and I never post my serious relationship problems…
Good morning! I need some real advice right now and I never post my serious relationship problems but I really don't know what to do. My sister and hubby had a fight last night. why? because he bra was on the bathroom floor and he felt it was nasty and inconsiderate for it to be in the bathroom. she said she had it on the doorknob so Idk how it got on the floor. what he doesn't understand is before he came along this was a house of only women so nobody was worried about offending someone by having underwear in the bathroom. he said the way he was raised u don't leave underwear in the bathroom because it's considered nasty and inconsiderate of others in the house. he came out the bathroom asked if it was mine I said no it's hers meaning my sister and he mean mugged her and thru it on the floor. and went back in the bathroom. my sis and I was just dumbfounded like wtf just happened. I felt it was rude to throw it on the kitchen floor like he did. so I said something to him the moment he called her nasty all hell broke loose they exchanged words he thru a lot of low blows at her and it pissed her off and punches were thrown. I'm yelling at him asking wtf was his problem it was crazy. I know they don't like each other but she has been trying to be nice him and he does this bullshit really? she didn't even say shit to him so why did he have to do what he did. it was unnecessary. he told me he hate her and don't care bout her and if she ever got in His face again he promise he gone crack her head. none of this sits well with me. then he upset because he say when she come over I'm all in her face talking to her wth thats my sister am I not supposed to talk to her at all. there's more to the story but this post is long enough. thoughts anyone? please. Idk what to do. my family is important to me I feel like if I continue to b with him it will just get worse.
missing51user·
I mean if he hates her why are they together? why don't they separate? maybe it's time for someone to leave. it's not healthy for her to stay with him just to be nice
Kayla Ward·
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they are not together.I think u misunderstood I was talking about my sister and my boyfriend @january10th
missing51user·
ooh okay I thought it was her & her boyfriend. Idk why. well maybe you should talk to him about this, she is your sister she's not going anywhere
Kayla Ward·
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I already did that's when he informed me he hate her don't care about her and he has made a promise to crack her head. @january10th
missing51user·
wow that's no good.. hmm all because of a bra? I think maybe it was just because he was mad, when you're angry you say things you don't mean
Jaqueline ·
Мама сына (4 года), беременна (17 нед.)
Definitely that is your sister and I would choose my sister over a man especially if he is going to disrespect her when she is around.....but idk what advice to give....if that was me all hell would've broke loose too
Kayla Ward·
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the bra is what made him mad but it was just a bra I don't get it. @january10th
Jaqueline ·
Мама сына (4 года), беременна (17 нед.)
maybe it was other stuff as well and the bra set him off
missing51user·
that sounds a bit immature it's a bra he has to realize that it is a house full of women that's what we do. there is no need to throw a fit & hit people over something that could be easily fixed. I would say talk to him straight up & tell him he needs to re evaluate exactly what made him so mad. because it's not right that one bra would piss him off to the point where he's making threats to a female. maybe he needs anger management
Kayla Ward·
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@january10th, @jackee856 i said the same thing that maybe he was made about other stuff and he took his anger out on her cuz he dont like her but he said he wasnt mad about anything else
Kayla Ward·
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he said it pissed him off cuz that's nasty
Jaqueline ·
Мама сына (4 года), беременна (17 нед.)
yea...I agree with @january10th....I know that I can get upset like that too but mostly of something else is bothering me.
missing51user·
But how? at least it wasn't underwear with stains on them!? lol like that's nasty to me. a bra is what ever he could've came out calmly & asked to pick up the bra & that would've avoided all the trouble & fighting. why doesn't he like her?
Kayla Ward·
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that's what my mom said @january10th . he don't like her cuz things she has done to me she don't like him cuz of the shit he has done to me
🌺Sabrina🌺·
@kaymariah, I can understand where he's coming from because my husband said the same thing to me before, he didn't go into the low blows he just said stuff like bras, panties, pads and liners and their wrappers were disgusting, he brought it to my attention when my mom in law stayed with us, he said he never knew when I was on my cycle unless he was trying to get some because I was very discreet. We now have a 12 yr old and live with my mom in law again and he never says anything to them but he tells me so I can address it, some men are sensitive when it comes to that stuff, but it's your sister he was wrong for saying anything to her, he should have addressed it with you and let you say something in a womanly way and I'm sure she would have been more than happy to take her bra with her
🌺Sabrina🌺·
@kaymariah, also I don't ever leave my undies in the bathroom but my og do it all the time, so now I just hide them or throw them in the dirty clothes just to keep the peace and save myself the repetitious headaches lol
Maggie·
hey i dont know where your at with this but its sounds like theres something behind his anger towards her, it wasn't just about the bra the bra was an excuse for him to have to react a reason to release his anger, it wont.always be peaches n cream when it comes to fam but the bug BUT fam is to ALWAYS BE RESPECTED ur sis is going to naturally defend herself from any man disrespecting her n that disrespect came the minute he thru her stuff on the floor that issue should have stood between you n him he should have given you the bra to give to her but he wanted to act out on her because he doesnt like her bottom line he has no place disrespecting anyone in your family just like he would expect you to respect everyone in his
Kayla Ward·
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@bellies, exactly. I told him it's exactly how his mother and I never really got along but I have put all feelings aside and have been very civil with her because of him it's the same thing she did not disrespect him so what was the point in throwing it on the floor.
Maggie·
what are your living arrangements going to be once the baby comes bc that animosity between is going to weigh on you and if their not going to smash their beef than something has to give bc thats stress you dont need
Kayla Ward·
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I live with my mom and he lives here as well. my sister doesn't live here but she comes over all the time because here kids be here while she is at work @bellies