We've only been separated for 6 months... I filed for divorce after 4 months because he wasn't being cooperative with trying to fix things. It came about because of his kids lying on me
@godsgift24, thanks.. @overthemoon congrats, I'm glad you found happiness again. It's been a short period of time and I just wonder when I'll get over it.
We are currently deciding on what to do with our family. It's horrible. We had many issues before i got pregnant but i guess none of us thought it will get so much worth when i have baby in my womb... I so desperate, i know whatever we will decided would be better for both of us, but i feel so lonely and weak... I left all my friends when i met him just because i didnt need them anymore - he was my only friend. And now im literally alone and cant tell to anyone about what's going on. I am 15 weeks pregnant and i am afraid im harming my unborn baby... It is very hard.
@belena I struggle with it everyday. Eventually I talked to my OB because of the same feelings u r having now. She put me on antidepressants. We went for the divorce but it wasn't granted because the baby isn't born yet. It's very hard to care for someone so much and the love isn't reciprocated. I pray all the time, read the Bible, and try to keep myself busy. My husband is my best friend also. We were born 3 days apart. I'm just looking to God and praying for restoration.
@single_ladi, im also praying... I am russian, and here it easier to divorce before baby is born. If both of us willing to divorce - we will get it in 1 month. If we will be having a child - we will need to go through a court procedure which is difficult. I was on prozac before i got pregnant. And cant take it now with the baby inside, im afraid to harm him/or her. I often want to smoke or drink a little bit (not to get wasted but a couple glasses of wine would be helpful), i used to do it before cand it's very relaxing... But I can't, just can't. I even got to the clinic because i had non stop pain in my belly... Doctors were afraid I'm loosing my child. But now it's ok, thanks for medication. Now my husband is far, he works in another region on rotation schedule and will be back in the end of February (we both did, but since I'm pregnant I don't work there anymore). We tried to talk - but it's impossible, he doesn't listen to me. We have so many claims from the both sides, by my claims he doesn't want to know. Sometimes i think he doesn't really care what's in my head. Now we put in on pause, we dont talk at all and I feel so lonely... He was my best friend. But sometimes he becomes a totally different person which i can't live with. I'm 24 only and i feel so desperate and disappointed, like I'm 84.
@belena I'm sorry to hear they do things like that where your from. They make divorce too easy now a days. People aren't willing to fight for family anymore. Right now I've come to the realization that him and I may not reconcile and that's painful but we've been separated through my whole pregnancy and I'm ready for what ever outcome. The unfortunate thing is once all is completed it will be like ripping the bandaid off the wound all over again.
godsgift24·
wow. so sorry
Marlena·
Мама дочки (6 лет), беременна (12 нед.)
I am but its diff we been separated 4 yrs. sorry to hear this. I'm currently prego with bf.
single_ladi·
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We've only been separated for 6 months... I filed for divorce after 4 months because he wasn't being cooperative with trying to fix things. It came about because of his kids lying on me
single_ladi·
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@godsgift24, thanks.. @overthemoon congrats, I'm glad you found happiness again. It's been a short period of time and I just wonder when I'll get over it.
Marlena·
Мама дочки (6 лет), беременна (12 нед.)
just take time especially when pregnant and hormones are flowing.
elena·
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We are currently deciding on what to do with our family. It's horrible. We had many issues before i got pregnant but i guess none of us thought it will get so much worth when i have baby in my womb... I so desperate, i know whatever we will decided would be better for both of us, but i feel so lonely and weak... I left all my friends when i met him just because i didnt need them anymore - he was my only friend. And now im literally alone and cant tell to anyone about what's going on. I am 15 weeks pregnant and i am afraid im harming my unborn baby... It is very hard.
elena·
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Please talk to me. Did you do that? How to survive and carry a child through this nightmare?..
single_ladi·
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@belena I struggle with it everyday. Eventually I talked to my OB because of the same feelings u r having now. She put me on antidepressants. We went for the divorce but it wasn't granted because the baby isn't born yet. It's very hard to care for someone so much and the love isn't reciprocated. I pray all the time, read the Bible, and try to keep myself busy. My husband is my best friend also. We were born 3 days apart. I'm just looking to God and praying for restoration.
elena·
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@single_ladi, im also praying... I am russian, and here it easier to divorce before baby is born. If both of us willing to divorce - we will get it in 1 month. If we will be having a child - we will need to go through a court procedure which is difficult. I was on prozac before i got pregnant. And cant take it now with the baby inside, im afraid to harm him/or her. I often want to smoke or drink a little bit (not to get wasted but a couple glasses of wine would be helpful), i used to do it before cand it's very relaxing... But I can't, just can't. I even got to the clinic because i had non stop pain in my belly... Doctors were afraid I'm loosing my child. But now it's ok, thanks for medication. Now my husband is far, he works in another region on rotation schedule and will be back in the end of February (we both did, but since I'm pregnant I don't work there anymore). We tried to talk - but it's impossible, he doesn't listen to me. We have so many claims from the both sides, by my claims he doesn't want to know. Sometimes i think he doesn't really care what's in my head. Now we put in on pause, we dont talk at all and I feel so lonely... He was my best friend. But sometimes he becomes a totally different person which i can't live with. I'm 24 only and i feel so desperate and disappointed, like I'm 84.
single_ladi·
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@belena I'm sorry to hear they do things like that where your from. They make divorce too easy now a days. People aren't willing to fight for family anymore. Right now I've come to the realization that him and I may not reconcile and that's painful but we've been separated through my whole pregnancy and I'm ready for what ever outcome. The unfortunate thing is once all is completed it will be like ripping the bandaid off the wound all over again.