This might cause a lot of commotion but I need to Vent. Me and my Babies father have been together for 3 years. Now that we are pregnant his family is pushing that we get married and that if it doesn't work out we can get a divorce. Me and my bf don't believe that we need a piece a paper or anything to bless us and our Daughter. But his Family believe other wise. Me and my husband feel that as long as we believe in a higher power and Love and help each other we can be happy and maybe one day we can get married to symbolize the Love that we created not something that marriage created. But his Family is talking about before the Baby comes we'll be married sorry I'm not sorry that won't be happening.
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I feel the sane exact way. my bfs mom wanted us to go down to the courthouse & do it that way because shes religious. we told her when we get married we want to do it the traditional way not because its what everyone else wanted. I personally dont want to be married until 25. Im 20 now, so they will have to wait.
That's kind of what happened with myself and my boyfriend but not that extent. my bf dad had mentioned we should get married and so did his family. I had said no They asked why not. I basiclly explained that I don't believe in couples running off to get married because they got pregnant. They are religious. I believe in God not really a specific religion like his family. So I just say if God didn't want us pregnant he wouldn't of let it happen. I take it as a blessing and running off to get married won't fix the fact that we were having sex before marriage anyway. Then I add that if my boyfriend was ready to marry me it would have been in the works, but it wasn't and it doesn't mean it won't happen it just means it may happen later and we get to focus and prepare 100 percent for our bundle of joy. Family's can be pushy. Stick to your guns, if you and your baby's father believe in the same thing then stand up for yourselves and don't do it for other people. getting married is supposed to be for your guys not a show for everyone else.
That's exactly how we feel. But there is no explaining to them they go all crazy. So so far all I've done is told her that me and him are on the same page and that what matter to me is him, me, and our Daughter. And she gave me this look. Since I know this conversation will come up again that's when I'll actually just tell her. I know she'll be mad and all but it's a two way relationship and not me him and his family.