So it seems the my fiance has gotten the idea in his head that he wants to be a stay at home dad now. He said that there is no way it will work with both of us possibly working full time, and he doesnt want our son being raised by strangers. I understand wanting to spend time with our son, but I have a part time job right now. He has a full time 3rd shift job and a part time job during the day. (Part time job is MAYBE 5-10 hrs a week, so nothing major) He has threatened to quit his full time job and his part time job several times because he claims he doesnt get enough sleep. I am the one running him to and from work every day, plus I do stuff around the house, running errands for him and i during the day, plus trying to slowly get everything together for when baby gets here (which is rapidly approaching). I don't sleep during the day, and he spends at least half his night shift on the phone talking to me while he cleans and helps customers because he's bored. (he uses bluetooth so it's not obvious to customers hes on the phone) I get about 2-4 hours of sleep a day because of all this. I just dont feel that it's fair he asks that I get a better paying full time job so that he can stay home all day playing games on the computer. Am I going crazy? Or do his requests seem unreasonable??
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I was working three jobs at one point (not while I was pregnant of course) before him and I met. 60+ hours a week? try over 80...I would go 2-3days at a time without even a nap. I've been there and done it just to survive and get the bills paid. it sucked, but it's what I had to do. I know I cant solely depend on his income alone for all 3 of us, but I just dont feel it would be fair for me to finally have the family I've always dreamt about...and not get to spend time with my son like I want to. I'd work part time when he's not at work, or find a sitter for a some of the time im at work so he's able to still get sleep. asking me to work full time while attempting to excessively breast feed while he's at home all day wouldn't exactly be ideal for any of us either.
we have a difficult time paying bills as it is...I dont understand why he thinks he could be a stay at home parent when he has guaranteed 40 hrs a weeks at one job and 5-10 at the other. his part time job tries to call him in more days than just the one or two he is normally scheduled but he tells them no. I'm quite exhausted...but I only get..."you're not working 60+ hours a week. you cant be that tired" when I say something. I've stopped asking for the foot rub I was promised and the back rub I was promised for bringing him home beer one night after I got off work. I dont even ask for that once a week and I still get the same response. he works two jobs and he's "too tired"
yeah don't let him threaten you like that. say your the mom your making the baby if anyone is going to quit there job its you!
I'm sorry but if anything you should be the one not working.. Especially if you plan on breast feeding.. That's not very fair on his part at all. I hope everything works out girl! @lilman1115