i have a question for u all- my step mother is planning my baby shower and i know the tradition is to surprise the…
i have a question for u all- my step mother is planning my baby shower and i know the tradition is to surprise the expecting mother and not tell them when it is or anything about it but honestly i want to be a part of mine...she already said she wants most of it to be a surprise and she doesnt want me to know much about it but its my first baby first baby shower and i get really excited about it i want it to be perfect i want to help pick out decorations and games my step mom can be really controling and after i already gave some suggestions she keeps saying i want it to be a surprise! i have about 4 months til my shower so a lot of time but be honest should i just let it go and let her plan it how she wants because that is tradition anyway and im lucky to even be having a shower or do u think i should let her know nicely that i want to be a little more involved as this is my first shower? ? thanks ladies 😊 sorry this is long
Alhy Berry·
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I kind of want to be involved in mine but at the same time I like surprises. I know nothing about when mine is or who will be there. My husbands aunts and my mother in law are planning it. They're pretty cool so I know it will be fun and I'll get lots of stuff for baby which is all I really care about anyway. I didn't even think I would have a shower so I feel blessed. I think u should give your stepmom hints on what u would like and she will probably do that.
Mrs.Pin to you 😉·
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this my 1st baby... they want my opinion .. so I def chose the colors I wanted and the table center pieces. I chose my invites and I will help them make the goodie bags and diaper cake and label stuff. I just don't have to pay for anything and I don't plan to help set up the day of the shower. so I see nothing wrong with it. at least let you chose the theme
Lyndsey·
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I would just elm her I'd like to be more involved heck you only get one!
nikki11st·
@alhynele, thatsanother thing i dont want to sound ungrateful but i dont even really trust my step mom.to that good of a job...i know that sounds mean but im just being honest and thats one reason i really wanna be involved im very grateful for my step mom though cause i dont know if i wouldve done one by myself if it wasnt for her so i feel bad saying this stuff but she doesnt have the best reputation when it comes to parties.. @sexii_diiva yeah thats what i want! like i want to at least pick out the colors and theme and i really want the food to be custom made like cake or something even if i have to pay for it and i just really dont see my step mom putting the effort into my shower at all i really feel like its gunna be thrown together last minute with not many decorations or games and its my first i have this vision of how i want it to be so it gets me nervous! how do u all think i should tell her? shes really controlling and gets REALLY defensive over everything I say unless im in complete agreement with her i feel like if i let her know shes gunna be mad for some reason @firefly
Alhy Berry·
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Just tell her that you're really happy that she wants to be involved in making your baby shower happen but u really would like to have some say as its your first child and this means a lot to u. Make her understand u don't want to take over but u do want elements of your personality to be present :)
Mrs.Pin to you 😉·
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well if you think its gonna be tacky then say you are helping. just lie and say one of your friends is helping too... I'm particular about food and stuff too because I'm picky. so she just gonna have to get over it. tell her she can so whatever you trust her with and you and the friend gonna so food and decorations.. and do some of the games