@cricket, I refuse to make him pick between us. I've tried to defend what she said even though I have no idea why she said it and it's not true but he won't have it. He keeps telling me he doesn't care why she said it. She shouldn't of said it. And that he doesn't think he can ever forgive her for it. I love him with all my heart so I'll support anything he decides to do. I just don't want him to cut his family out because I have a feeling he will. And I know she will blame me for it. He was supposed to go home this weekend to see them and he wanted me to go. After she heard what he said she begged him to come up but he won't go especially without me and idk of I can sit and have her say things like that to my face.

Its really difficult but im am going through this as well. And you never want to be the cause of a family hating eachother. So just be there for him as much as you can because even though he stuck up for you thats his mom and it had to have been really hard. I mean i would hate to lose my mom. Just dont worry about her or think about her what so ever. In the end all that matters is you and your guy and baby. At first I was so worried that she'd be talking about me to him so i wanted to know if she did. But I just had to put faith in my husband and trust that he would defend me to the extent that was needed. I used to hope he would defend me by flipping out on her but then I realized if i truly wanted them to still speak I couldnt want him to flip put on her. Him just saying please dont speak about my wife at all was enough. Opposed to screaming at her about every little thing and sayig this or that wasn't true. If you worry about what she say all the time what is it going to do but upset you? There is no need to know when someone speaks bad about you. If they feel a certain way thats thier problem. Or else you'll just be stressing over all this information that you cant do anything about. Honestly like what could you do yell at her and be on her level? Or keep your kids away from her forever? Thats hurting no one but you kids in the end . But by no means am i saying just trust her with your kids either...i wouldn't even do that. But if she was willing to stop being so stubborn and spend a little time with me in a room once in a while she could come and visit my child. I mean in the end I have her to thank for my husband so I was raised to give her my respect no matter what. Dont get me wrong im not gonna let her talk bad to me but its not who I am to sit and hate her. I will never trust my in law again and i will never confide in her or tell her anything personal but its up to my kids to make the decision to like her or not on their own. Also you have to think every time your guy has to choose between you two its hurting him and if he says other wise its a lie NO BODY would ever want their mother or father to hate thier significant other. So just forget about her for the sake of your feelings your baby's future and your giyst entire life. Ita hard to be the bigger person but you're a parents and you have an example to set. In the end all we can do is pray that things will get better and not worry about what truly does not matter. Best of luck its hard but you can make it through. :) @jackiemommieof2

Luckily she knows it's his. And he knows it's his. She just for some reason thinks it's a horrible horrible thing. We are both excited. My Parents weren't thrilled but they support me. Luckily he had his own apartment so we don't have to see her. I just don't wanna be the cause of his family hating him.

i know how you feel, my boyfriend's mom doesn't even like me. we told her i was pregnant and the first thing that came out her mouth was i want a paternity test.. and he stuck up for me told her that I'm not getting one because he knows it's his, and they live in the same house (not for long) but they NEVER speak because of the way she treats me

He's pretty upset upset about it. He didn't wanna tell me what she said because he didn't want it upsetting me. But I made him and when I started crying from it he pretty much told me he wasn't ever speaking to her again because he wasn't letting her treat me that way. And it just stressed me out because I've never had someone say something that hurtful to me before and I didn't know how to react or what to do. And all my friends won't even help me figure things out because most of them still won't talk to me.

you are young but its your life. as long as you're happy & you said you're gonna marry your current bf. just think about positive things . you have a good man because a lot of stories I hear the guy doesn't stand up for the girl. but He stood up for you. so keep your distance from her && surround yourself by positive friends and family

I know exactly what you are feeling. there's not much you can do but cut them out. my mother in law is less then thrilled about the baby I honestly think she was hoping I had a miscarriage because she told my fiance not to buy anything for our son till after I was 8 months. & she said the reason why she wasn't excited when we first told her about the baby was because I wasn't showing yet

-_- what does me showing have to do with her being happy & excited?? I am now 27 weeks she still doesn't care she doesn't ask how I'm doing or how the baby is. I'm over her & I won't ever forgive her. I am hell bent on keeping her from my child & I will be putting her on the do not visit list at the hospital idc what my fiance says. I'd just say ignore it & try not to think about it. it beat myself up over it but eventually gave up & honestly ad long as her son loves me & is by my side I could not careless about her or anyone else