I'm gonna snap on my sister in law. she's planning my baby shower (which I'm grateful for because I…

I'm so sorry to hear about your mom honestly you don't need that drama right now I would just contact all your friend and family and go to lunch and let that be your baby showers cause honestly they arent that important I never had one and I'm 35+3 I don't fully understand where you are at the mom situation but I did just find out that my mom decided to stop her cancer treatment she has a rare cancer that has no cure and she stopped the treatment to enjoy the rest of her life I don't know weather to be upset or happy for her

I had my MIL and grandmother in law do that at my birth, they were snooty at my baby shower didn't get up or move and put down everything that happened and made sure everyone knew what they got and made it about them, but the birth they said it wasn't about us it was about them, especially GIL, they never let me rest during labor, every time we said I was going to rest one of them would come in (GIL said she thought she's finally get to see her when she was in high school, and multiple other comments) and basically assumed they'd be in the delivery room while I was giving birth, and got mad when I wanted it to be just my guy and I, and wouldn't let me have my mom in their even if I wanted to, even when I was laboring. When I gave birth and my guy went to tell everyone, my grandma went to ask about me, and they flipped on her and said she was "ruining a family moment" and said yelled at them, and we had to get security to get them to leave, so after I gave birth I had to calm the situation, plus try to help my child. My family asked about me because my twin felt something was wrong, I was actually starting to lose a lot of blood so it was in good reason, and they ruined my birth experience and made it traumatizing, and they also didn't know I was pregnany until I was 5 months and knew the sex, and they basically downed us and her, and now make an act of liking her, and they tell us what we're gonna do, not suggestion, they put us down as parents and basically make our lives miserable. I can speak from experience in bad family problems, don't let them get to you, it'd make things while pregnant and after much harder, I know it's easier said than done, but I told you my story so you know I'm not trying to give you advice and not knowing anything about the situation, I can understand, but for you and baby's sake, don't let anyone get to you, if need be cut them off, go to YOUR shower wearing what you want, if she says something to you leave, can't have a baby shower with out mommy and baby. I have faith things will get better, if things are that bad don't invite her to the birth, and like I said leave or don't go to the baby shower. You have that right, you are mommy, you are strong and you can do this! Good luck darlin'! Sorry for the long message.

Omg! Forget that! I'd slap her so fast!

But I'm sorry about your mom! ;(

That's so terrible I am so sorry to hear that. She sounds crazy and I'm so sorry about your mom. :(

I'd rather have the baby shower my way then any other way, my cousin is planning mine and I told her if it doesn't go through me then it's not happening. all about respect!

im sorry about your mom hun and its your baby shower it should be how u want it regardless of whos planning it shes gonna have to learn to respect you

sorry for your loss my SIL is planning mine an things been great so far the baby shower is abt yu an if she dnt understand that an won't let yu wear what yu want then yu shouldn't go