I don't think holding out is the answer. If you don't mind, what type of help are you seeking from your husband?

I agree with alhynele that's one way to ruin a relationship if it's purely for revenge. Sex is a gateway to whole new level in a relationship if you chose to open up. So unless you don't feel like sex then talk to him and let him know how you feel. If he doesn't understand then maybe he isn't the person you should be with

I don't believe in using sex as a bargaining tool or as punishment. I mean if u are refraining from having sex because u are not in the mood it's different. But if it's purely to make him suffer than I would advise against it. I think that maybe if u show him some love it may help u guys to connect better and maybe be on the same level again. My husband and I always get intimate after a fight. Sometimes I'm still angry and don't feel like it but I do and because of the endorphins that are released during sex we always feel so much closer and appreciate each other so much more. Try being more intimate and communicating your feelings while you are both on the same level. :) good luck