@kiraharjo22, I have been back and forth with my decision to be with my husband and he is at least trying but I cant let go of the past and that's what is not letting me trust him especially now that im pregnant im just afraid in general that he will do something stupid again. he has changed since the first time we got together to now so I am hoping this time around he will change for good to be a good father now. and I know how you feel on the not knowing if you will have money when with him when my husband gets mad he goes out with his "friends" & wastes all the money on alcohol, but at the same time I should give him props cuz he usually does pay all the bills first.

well at least he is trying mine he just wants to jerk me around on the hope train an then derail it because he's not grown up yet but ik how ya feel i always lean back on going bacl to him an giving in but sometimes you just can't the emotional and physical stress that you put on yourself because of it isn't good for you an especially not good for the baby its not wortj losing you'res or! you're babys life over ik ive came pretty damn close to because I let my stupid jackass husband get to me an run me over trust me you'll no if he will change or not an if he's willing to or not. i found out the hard way that my husband isn't an wont ever change and grow up because he was raised that way it's been hard to do but ive slowly broken my bad habit to with the help of family an friends an mainly thinking about what is to come for my babys future will he have one if i stay with this low life husband of mine or will we be better off without him dragging us down all the way thru hell and back. an i chose because i seen that me an my baby would be alot better off without him and my baby will have a future an not have to worrie which house were gonna jump to next or if he will be fed because daddy was gready an spent all the money on him an is to lazy to go out an get off his ass to get a job and provide for his family believe whenever I say if it does come down to that its not easy an it will take time a long time but with the help of good friends an family an knowing you an you're baby will be better off without him it gets easier as time goes on... i promise. :)

thank you @kiraharjo22

I want to move on but he's the one guy no matter what I always go back to. I tried breaking that habit but haven't been successful. we are supposed to work on things when he returns from his military training next month.we will see how that goes...

my husband left me not even half way through my pregnancy with his 2 week pay checl an didnt leave a dime for me an baby an he told me straight up that he didnt care ik what you're going though its hard but that babys life is way more important than the person that has hurt you trust me their not worth you're time if they dont care its a day buy day thing to let them go it hurts at first but it really does get easier i promise :) just keep a beautiful smile upon that pretty little face an kepp you're head up their's other people that love you just as much if not more like family and friends :)

@mindynderrick, my husband hasn't ignored me but he did do other things that disappointed me and made me more depressed because I never imagined my life to be the way it is. @prissyprissyme i have had my family around it helps at times but those days I have thinking about my future and the baby makes me sad. I want something different from what I have right now. when I was with my husband I was always up and down emotionally.

i have been on zoloft foro depression and mood swingssince my 13th week of pregnancy. its, as my doctor says the penicillin of depression medicine for pregnant and nursing mothers. she prescribes it a lot for post partum depression. the first week adjusting to it was tough but it makes me feel normal again.

Haven't been with the father of my child since before I found out I was pregnant, he hasn't been in the picture much at all. But I keep myself grounded by focusing on my blessing, and I have a great support system of friends and family so that helps also :). Try to stay positive and remember your about to be a new mommy to a beautiful baby!!!!!

I kind of went thru a similar situation with my youngest child, his dad and I tried to get pregnant with him and then we started having problems and I found out I was pregnant and when I told him he ignored me for a week and then the whole pregnancy he treated me like crap and would tell me the baby was probably not even his. I never told my doctor I was depressed or anything but my check up after I had him the doctor told me she could tell I was depressed and she put me on the anti depressants

thank you @lilman1115 I know I try to cheer my self up so I try not to be by myself for long periods of time. i dont want to harm my baby especially cuz it is not its fault.

the situation you're in weighs a lot on your mood. I've gone through my bouts of depression this pregnancy as well. they'll hit me out of nowhere some days. others I will be okay. I haven't had the guts to ask my doctor either. I just try my best not to let myself get too stressed and physically upset when im in those moods. I know it stresses on my baby too. last time I let myself get extremely upset and crying hard I ended up having contractions that were on and off for about an hour. they went away as soon as I was able to calm myself down again. I know it's difficult at times, but try and keep your head up mama.

I want to ask him i have an appointment the 26th. Just don't have the gut to ask cuz for the last couple of months my husband and I were there trying to get pregnant and now that I am I don't really want it because of the situation I am in.

Maybe you can talk to your doctor and see what they recommend, they might prescribe you something that's safe to take during pregnancy

I was depressed when I was pregnant with my last child. The doctor prescribed me anti depressants after I had him