My boyfriend & I both decided not to give our son pacifiers because we aren't fans of it for many reasons. Our doctor said we didn't have to give him one if we didn't want to that it's a preference every parent has, that it doesn't hurt or benefit them either way. I don't judge anyone who chose to give their child one but if one more person asks me what I do when my child cries if I don't give him a pacifier I will explode. When my son cries I hold him, I check his diaper, I give him a toy, try ...