Как наказать сына за буллинг: подарок и записка или достаточно извинений?
I’m so upset 😭 I was notified on Friday after school that my son has been hanging out with a group of kids who have been teasing another kid calling him names. This little boy is such sweet little boy and it breaks my heart cause I don’t raise my kids to be mean/nasty or bully anyone.
So as a form of punishment he wasn’t allowed to do anything this past weekend & I told him that he was to empty his piggy bank out and buy the boy a gift and hand write a sorry note.
I had a nice long sit down with my son and let him know that we can’t be mean or say mean things to people cause it hurts peoples feelings and let him know that it won’t be tolerated again.
Was I wrong for making him buy the kid a gift and hand write a note or is a note sufficient?
Llama Pantaloons·
Мама сына (2 года)
I like the idea of him using his own money to buy the kid a gift. Maybe the lesson will stick with him longer. I don’t have any experience with this personally yet though.
JWDx4 Momma🦈🦖🦄🧚♀️··
Yeah he isn’t to pleased about having to do it, but I can’t let this slide🤷♀️
Llama Pantaloons··
Мама сына (2 года)
Understandable. I would be upset too, but he needs to learn it’s not okay to bully others.
💋 Single Mama 💋·
Мама сына (6 лет)
No you did the right thing
C. Delaney ·
I think that’s a reasonable punishment. I’ve been taught the punishment should fit the crime. He made another person feel bad so the opposite would be to make them feel good. A gift and handwritten note is a nice gesture. Hopefully the lesson was learned and he’ll make better choices next time.
M_🖤·
I think you did the right thing and I think it’s teaching him a good lesson.
One of the biggest conversations I’ve had with my kids is you can’t be a follower even if your friends are doing something doesn’t mean it’s the right thing, which I think is hard for kids I think they want to fit in. Not saying that’s an excuse for his behavior but could that possibly be the case? Could he have been picking on this other kid to fit in?