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I need to vent. I have a friend that has been my friend for about 13 years. My grandfather passed away last year and he left myself and sister a very large trust. He was a multi millionaire and put everything in a trust to be split. The day I found out about him passing and the money my friend was with me and was a part of the conversation so she knew. Life has changed some for me but honestly not a lot. I basically live the same way I was before, I’m still renting, I do plan to buy a home in the future but nothing crazy. I still work but not as much as I was m. Honestly I haven’t done much with my trust or even started investments yet because it’s just a lot to process. Anyways, my friend is constantly making comments like ohh how much did you pay for that?, or she’ll question me about how much money I have in an account because I told her I was broke. She’s constantly saying well you said you were broke how do you have money for this or that ? The other day she asked me where I was going and I said on the way to the store, she said ohh yea you go to the store every day. Mind you I go to the store for basic stuff like groceries or household items. I go to kroger and target. Nothing fancy. She asked me before did I plan to change or was I going to stay the same. I said of course I’m not going to change. The other day I said I wanted to do the 21 and me dna test. She asked me how much it was and I was like oh it’s not a lot like $89 or something. She said oh I’m starting to not like you, you’re bougie now. Ummm how ? I’m not splurging, Im
not out here swiping and being reckless. Idk it just makes me feel really uncomfortable and I purposefully try to not let her know any time I spend money because I don’t want her to treat me differently. I don’t even like talking about money. We have gone out to eat a few times and I’ve paid. One time she paid for us and another time we paid our own way. When her daughter made a comment about it she said I don’t need my friend to pay every time we go eat, I’m not that big of a bum I can’t afford my own food. That actually bothered me. Because Any other time I usually pay for us. I don’t know y’all, I don’t want this to affect our friendship but I feel like it is and in the end she’s going to treat me differently.
14.02.2025

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eatmyassfromtheback-kthanks
eatmyassfromtheback-kthanks
Thanks yall, it just really bothers me talking about money and her comments bother me. Every time I do something she says “ oh that money must have come from Lori” (that’s the lawyer who is my trustee). When I say I’ve barely touched my trust, barely. I don’t want to be treated differently. I’m the same person.
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raisingblueyedbabiesx2
raisingblueyedbabiesx2
Don't sound like a friend sounds like someone who is incredibly jealous.
I would tell her to back off your finances are in no way shape or form her problem
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hakunamatata09
hakunamatata09
Honestly
Money shows people's true colors (hers not yours)
I would kindly say something like "can we please not bring up money, or constantly asking me how much I pay for xyz. It makes me feel uncomfortable"
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jenx
jenx
That part. Money makes everything really weird. I was once given this piece of advice that is very very accurate: "If you can't figure out why someone acts the way they do, follow the money." This was in a nursing home where you couldn't figure out the weird ass family relationships and things they would ask for. It always tied back to money, not the welfare of the patient.
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bestmotherever55
bestmotherever55
Sounds like she trying to have u give her money or buy things after ur grandfather passed away
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jenx
jenx
She needs to let it go, whether it's jealousy or whatever.
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scream.queen
scream.queen
She has no business asking how much you have in an account nor how much you spend on anything.
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icebergahead
icebergahead
She needs to mind her own business😂. You do not share a joint account with her.
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