Opinions please

My daughter is just like me. She's 9.5 and has been slowly going through puberty the last year. She's anxious about it and breaks down in tears and the slightest mention of the word period in that context. Anyway about a year ago my mil was on me like hotcakes telling me she needs to wear a bra 🙄. I wanted her to have a little bit of childhood before more body changes and she was only 8. I brought her some training bras when she turned 9 but honestly she almost an A cup so they didn't do much. She HATED them but I told her that society says we she wear them, really I didn't want perverts looking at her when we were out and about. Anyways...

It's 90 out today and my niece who is going into highschool this fall was just over. Her and my sister were talking about bras or lack there of. My niece said no one really wears them anymore at her school. Shocked, but I asked for more info and she said the girls don't wear them. Sometimes the larger chest girls will wear them for gym or sports but that's it. No one cares.

Now I'm thinking maybe I shouldn't be forcing my kiddo to either. I wear one about 75% of the time. After I get a lift in a year or two I probably won't wear one at all. I feel so bad. Like maybe she shouldn't wear one. The one's she prefers don't do any kind of support or anything.

So do your young preteens and teens wear them? Do you make them wear them no matter what daily or only in certain circumstances.