Lately, I’ve really been struggling with the fact that I still live with my parents (sorta a basement apartment). Don’t get it twisted. Without me, they wouldn’t be able to pay their bills. But I am 100% sacrificing my own comfort & peace so my son has a stable environment. If I lived in an apartment, I’d also have to pay for someone to take him to school & back home. School bus is not an option. He also can’t even FATHOM the idea of living somewhere else & without his grandparents. It also makes me super self conscious and like I’ve accomplished nothing. Besides my car, I have nothing to call my own.
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I think it's because of the shitty things people joke around about adult kids living at home. You're basically being selfless because your parents can't make it on their own and your son would be very upset if the situation were to change. I really hope the apartment is nice and you have some privacy, you deserve it.
It’s nice. But I still have to live by their house rules. It’s honestly so embarrassing and diminishing. Once I brought a guy over, whom I was dating for like 2.5 years and my dad lost it. I feel like a teenager. I always I have bring me and my son over to other peoples places. It’s just so embarrassing. It doesn’t stop them from always asking me for money though. Honestly I feel trapped.
@mybabybear that's a really tough position to be in. :(
@mybabybear wow, honestly, I get everything you're saying, I understand how you feel and what you're going through. I have to say, however, that some rules truly need to be re-established if everyone isn't happy with how things are now. You are being selfless, but it gets to a point that it doesn't work anymore. Please talk to them, you aren't a child and they can't treat you like one. The "my house, my rules" don't even apply because you are keeping them afloat with your contributions to the household. If you weren't there, they would have to rent to someone else and they couldn't make rules like that. It seems like a case where your parents still see you as a child to be... disciplined? controlled? watched over?
I advocate for privacy. It is extremely important. Hopefully you guys can figure out a way where you all are not stepping in one another’s boundaries.
Living with others (friends or family) is probably stressful, and to not feel comfortable in your own home is not a way to live. You both deserve some spacing between.