mybabybear
mybabybear ·Мама сына (11 лет)
I am really struggling with my son this year and I truly feel lost as a parent. He cries often at school and has difficulty solving problems and regulating himself. He’s always had some of these issues but this is the first year since kindergarten where it’s gotten so bad that he will cry and refuse to transition and his special Ed teacher recommended private counseling or something. I’m not sure what’s happening because he won’t talk to me about anything but I have noticed his self esteem has been extremely low this year. He has social work via school but not sure if it’s helping and now I’m being told security is being called during these moments. BTW he’s not on the spectrum.
18.12.2023
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@mybabybear, How often is he having difficulty? Do you know how long the incidents usually last? What kinds of behaviors is he displaying during the times of difficulty?
Do you think he’d benefit from social skills/behavior minutes to focus on regulating emotions or how to respond when unexpected or uncomfortable things happen? I don’t know what kind of resources your school has, but in a situation like this we would likely amend a student’s IEP to provide behavior support pull out for 20 min 2x a week and create an IEP goal targeted to the behavior we’re most concerned about. Our special ed teacher uses the Superflex curriculum.
I would probably start with that over a BIP at this point based on what you’ve shared. I would start by asking if amending to add behavior/social minutes is something they think would be helpful.
Do you think he’d benefit from social skills/behavior minutes to focus on regulating emotions or how to respond when unexpected or uncomfortable things happen? I don’t know what kind of resources your school has, but in a situation like this we would likely amend a student’s IEP to provide behavior support pull out for 20 min 2x a week and create an IEP goal targeted to the behavior we’re most concerned about. Our special ed teacher uses the Superflex curriculum.
I would probably start with that over a BIP at this point based on what you’ve shared. I would start by asking if amending to add behavior/social minutes is something they think would be helpful.
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@ekko, my son has opened up a little more to me tonight. Apparently paraprofessional is calling security to help him often. He is not aggressive but he will refuse to do anything when he is upset/crying and needs help to work through it. This is unacceptable to me and NOT a form of deescalation. I also do not know how often these behaviors are occurring and what’s being done to help. Therefore, I will be sending out an email to the IEP team and teachers asking for such data. What happened before the behavior, the behavior, what was done to deescalate, and if security was called.
I am livid.
And I do think he would benefit from those type of behavior minutes. Also to target self advocacy.
I am livid.
And I do think he would benefit from those type of behavior minutes. Also to target self advocacy.
19.12.2023 Нравится Ответить
@mybabybear, Yikes. I don’t blame you for being upset. Sounds like the para isn’t very well trained. There’s no reason to call security for a kid who’s refusing to work or who’s crying. I have to work with our new people to let them know that if a child is being non compliant but isn’t being unsafe or disruptive, then they should not call me. Some adults have a hard time with that. “You get paid to wait” is what I tell our people. Wait it out and help the child deescalate or re-regulate when they’re ready (often by just backing off and shutting up lol).
I think requesting the data/info is perfect. If this is happening often then they should be collecting data.
Good luck! ❤️
I think requesting the data/info is perfect. If this is happening often then they should be collecting data.
Good luck! ❤️
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What services does he currently receive on his IEP? Just academics or are there behavioral/social minutes, too? What percentage of his day is spend in the special ed classroom and what percentage is spent in gen ed? How successful is he with transitions and handling difficulty in the sped classroom?
I don’t think it hurts to do outside counseling at all. I do think gathering more info from the teachers and determining whether he needs additional time in a smaller environment should also be a part of the conversation depending on his IEP and identified needs.