Стоит ли говорить о своих чувствах или лучше держать все в себе? Мой опыт и методы борьбы

As much as I hear people say not to keep things bottled up I sadly been better off not addressing things that bother me , how people make me feel , or how I feel in general. I’m learning to cope by acknowledging it within myself and changing what I have control over such as how I respond how I react and etc vs voicing it and getting sad or mad when it happen repeatedly when I can’t control how ppl are or how they act.