Should my son stay in his regular class despite ADHD?

@wellabean0413, damn that is what I am afraid of if they vote against my decision. I kind of have a feeling that will happen because I was getting a no and disapproval of the idea of him staying in class when I mentioned it in the meeting. I didn’t even have a chance yet to start the process of countering their decision. So if they said no during the meeting, I feel that they will say no after. They kept saying the special Ed is the best option for him. I wish my son did better in school and paid more attention. It’s hard to fight for him when he isn’t doing his best. I told him you have to participate more, pay attention to the stories and stop day dreaming about a game or something else you like and focus on the topics in class. I also told him to stop getting bored and pay attention to the lessons. There are so many things he can turn around if he tries harder. He now wants to show them that he will change but I’m afraid it is too late for them since they are set for the other class. I’m gonna try to message his teacher today and see what she says. I’m crossing my fingers lol. 🤞🏻

@myargentinandmystomachhurts, I mean all kids daydream so if that’s their only reason I think that’s pretty stupid to put him in special Ed.

@wellabean0413, if he has to go to special Ed, I am hoping to see if he can start for the next grade instead of this grade. 🤞🏻

@myargentinandmystomachhurts, do you live in a small town? Sounds like some small town bullshit. The teachers are all best friends and gossip together about everyone’s kids and their parents. Spreads like wildfires. I’d be raising all types of hell

@wellabean0413, oh no he’s in 4th grade now. That first year was hell while I secretly still have hell seeing that parent till this day lol. I sometimes still feel like I don’t belong but I am glad that not all of the staff is like that. There are some really lovely teachers in the school so a part of me tries to stick around but if I have any big problems, I know that I can’t tell the principal anything because he won’t help me.

Some of the parents are really strange there. It is sad in a way that I didn’t make any friends there but I think it is for the best. Sometimes it’s better to try and have a private life. I live in the suburbs, so I feel like maybe people around here are more closed minded here and fit in like a click. I think that is probably the main issue otherwise it is a nice quiet neighborhood. I had another parent act very strange with me recently but I ignored her. Before the holidays, one day when I dropped my son off and said bye, I dropped something from my purse and picked it up, not knowing that another parent was behind me. She called me stupid and gave me a dirty look. Believe me more than anything I wanted to curse her out or ask her what her problem was but I took the high road because I figure I am not on a good list with the school. If I speak up against another parent even if I am trying to defend myself, I will look like the enemy in the eyes of the principal and school so they will already view me as problematic considered all the issues I went through, even though it was the school that gave me problems. That mom, something is a little off with her because 2 other times I’ve seen her, she seems to wait outside way after dropping her son off and starts to walk next to me when I drop my son off like if she is following me. I looked at her once like a wtf kind of look. I started leaving earlier recently just so I can avoid that mom. I’m not sure who she is but that is another one that is strange with me. Maybe she could be part of the parent teacher committee as well lol. Other than that everything has been ok for now. Just the problem I have to decide how I can have my son stay in his class if i am able to.

@myargentinandmystomachhurts, Well, I’d just call a meeting about it. If he’s doing good and he’s happy in the class he’s in, no need to move him. The teachers can get over it. You’re his mother so you ultimately get to make all the decisions. You’ve gotta stick to your guns or they’ll bulldoze you!! You know what’s best for your child! I remember after I had my oldest son in the hospital a nurse asked me if I wanted the vitamin K ointment in his eyes and I was like “I don’t know.. do I? You can make that decision” and she told me “this is your child. You make all the decisions and call all of the shots for the next 18 years” and oh how that’s stuck with me 😂😂😂😂🙏

I tried that when I had a meeting with them recently and told them most of the reasons why I would want him to stay in his class and they didn’t agree with me. They said he has to switch.

The thing is they also said I have to write a paper explaining why I am against the idea of him changing within 10 days but they didn’t say that I can exactly fight it, I think with the letter would give me a chance for another meeting but not guarantee that he can stay in his class. I have to contact his teacher tomorrow and ask her what I can do? I’m just afraid when I do my part that I will hear a no. I also hope that if there is a small chance he can stay that there isn’t a chance of him getting left back. This is tough. 😩 Right now his class has 2 teachers and 2 para’s. The special Ed class will only have 1 teacher.

@myargentinandmystomachhurts, if you ask for an appeal, they cannot change his IEP until it has been looked over again which buys you some time. They may need you to write it out to have documentation. Everything needs to be documented.

@mswedes, thank you for letting me know. That sounds like a great idea. I’m gonna do that. 😃

No he never had services over the summer. I am actually thinking of doing that this year for him. Yeah they switch his classes too much. It is a lot with the whole back and forth. I feel so bad for him because I think they want to put him in the new class in 2 weeks and he is kind of freaking out about it. He really wants to stay in his class. I wish there was a way that they would let him stay in his class for the rest of the time and then put him in the special class for 5th grade but I don’t think they would do that. They really want to him to go to the other class now.