MIL настаивает на занятиях Джери чирлидингом
MIL is pushing for Jerri to do cheerleading (cause her daughter is the coach) me and Kenny done discussed it and decided to wait because he's about to go to 3rd shifts for a year and won't be able to request time off like he does now so he won't be able to do her competitions which he wants to be a part of.
Tried to explain this to MIL..... she goes well they know a few months before when competition will be so he'll know when he has to take off (not what i was getting at i was saying he isn't going to be able to get time off whether he requests it months weeks or days before needing it off) 🤦🏻♀️ then proceeds on telling me she'll take her to practice if she has to.....
i'm not sure how my answer was not clear that me and Kenny decided no 🙄
deleteduser·
Waiting a year won’t hurt her one bit! Hope MIL doesn’t mention it to Jerri and get her worked up..
Goth_Mom··
exactly, imma leave it for Kenny to explain to her maybe then she'll understand it since it's coming from him
Mish·
Your MIL has zero boundaries. We’ve had to start telling both sets of grandparents that they made their choices for their kids and it’s time for us to make our decisions for our kids.
Mish··
@beautiful_disaster, I feel your pain. Just know that it’s a common issue and she’s going to need to hear it from Kenny or else she’s going to resent you.
Goth_Mom··
exactly i'm leaving it to Kenny to explain to her cause if i try again she's going to get pissed off or keep pushing
JenX··
This. Exactly this. And maintain a strong front of you and Kenny. Don't let her divide youon anything. It isn't, "Well, she decided this and she's my wife..." On anything. Its, "No, WE decided..." And that's that. Never give a grandparent like this an inch.
Goth_Mom·
Kenny is pissed about it so hopefully he can get her to lay off it
JenX··
Yeah, he needs to take a no means no attitude with her, because if you give in she will fight you and expect to win ok everything, and trust me, as they get older there will be LOTS more opinions about everything from grandparents. Nip it in thebud now, it is easier in the long run.
Goth_Mom··
exactly but if i do it im the bitch and bunch of drama starts so i'm letting Kenny talk to her cause i'm trying to keep the peace
JenX··
absolutely! It 100% has to come from him.
Linden·
She's OBVIOUSLY an idiot Kayleigh, I'd spell it out in all caps she, one sentence at a time-hooked on phonics style for her!
She undermines you EVERY chance she gets then just plays dumb like it was an innocent mistake or like you're the one bein irrational for gettin mad "over somethin so silly". 🙄
Send her a text or email so you have a paper trail/proof of the conversation!
"I'm sorry if there has been any confusion, but I wanted to reach out real quick to clear things up and make sure we're all on the same page. Kenny and I have talked about adding an extra curricular activity to Jerri's schedule; we're not sure if it'll be cheerleading, softball, wrestling or WHATEVER. When that time comes we'll discuss it with Jerri and see what SHE'D like to participate in. HOWEVER, as of the current moment, it's just not feasible for us. While I know how much you love her and want to be a part of what she's doing, we, her PARENTS, would REALLY like to participate too.Her joining, or not joining, has NOTHING to do with money, or gettin her back and forth. AGAIN- the things mentioned above are NOT the issue(s) were faced with. Our issue is that her FATHER would like to be able to be there for these things too, he already misses out on so much, I'm NOT going to take this away from him, or Jerri for that matter! Don't you think she'd like to have her parents there to cheer her on like the other kids?? So, while we GENUINELY appreciate the offer, we are going to have to respectfully define for the time being. We will definitely revisit the idea when it's more cohesive with our already hectic schedule. In the meantime, I'm going to have to politely ask that we put the subject on hold, I don't need to continue to explain myself and/or our decisions for OUR child". 🤷♀️
Or some shortened version of that!! 🤣
Linden·
"In the meantime-PLEASE font keep bringing it up to Jerri, gettin her all excited and worked up over it. It makes it seem as though you're trying to sign her up for this but I'm just bein the bad guy. This is NOT something that's going to continue to happen or your contact WILL begin to be limited. I'm sorry, and I REALLY don't want to go that route, but my thoughts, opinions and decisions in regards to MY child, are mine and my husbands business, not even CLOSE to yours".
Goth_Mom··
PREACH IT!!!! said every thought i have!!!
Linden··
Listen Closely lil Mama-
(1) COPY
(2) PASTE
(3) SEND IT! 👐
🤣😘
But for real though......