Should I offer to pay for my absence at a wedding?
So my friends sister is getting married this weekend and I was invited to the wedding which I can’t go to now because my brother who has been staying with me has Covid… I feel fine so far and he’s keeping his distance but I know I still need to quarantine until further notice… anyways I told my friend I can’t make it and she says “well my sister paid $100 per person so that’s money being wasted idk since you aren’t sick you should come anyway.” I told her no I don’t want to risk others she says “if you want my sister to waste her money just say that why did you RSVP” so I offered to pay her the $100 and she told me no. Idk am I wrong in this? Like I offered to pay you the money but it’s not your “wedding” I’m missing it’s your sisters so like it’s really not that big of a deal also I bought them a expensive wedding gift that cost $150 and her sister was rude and set on the phone with the delivery food guy while they were suppose to be opening the gift which I thought was rude so I’m like I’m sure it won’t matter if I’m there not to mention how long it took me to get them their gift.. she wouldn’t make time for me to drop the gift off for 2 months…. So like I don’t see what the big deal is. I offered to give her the money but it seems like that’s not good enough either.
JenX·
You are 100% right and doing what you should do. She's being completely childish and unreasonable.
Food Is Love 💕💕·
Your definitely not wrong for not going . It’s people like her who are not taking Covid seriously . I just can’t deal your doing the right thing and it was a very generous wedding gift . Anyone with common sense would understand you have been exposed and need to quarantine
AliciaNoelle·
Covid is still very real. If you decide to have a wedding around this time understand that even after people rsvp it’s still a possibility that they won’t make it. She shouldn’t want her family being exposed to someone who possibly has it and I personally wouldn’t have offered to pay the $100. That’s what happens when you plan big fancy events during a pandemic.
Food Is Love 💕💕··
I love your response! So very true !
JenX··
THIS!!!!!
LT·
That’s lame. My wedding happened to have a hurricane. Should I dislike anyone who didn’t want to risk it to drive hours in such an instance? Everyone that I’ve ever spoken to had to pay for a lot of people who didn’t end up making it. It’s like par for the course
XryztalRoze·
The decision you have made reads "adult responsibility" all over it and is the only one that makes sense to me. It's one thing to attend events or gatherings when you have taken all precautions you are able and feel completely well. It's quite another to go, knowing you have someone in your home who is currently positive and you're in the window of time to find out. Since your friend isn't thinking clearly, please accept my attitude of gratitude that you're considering other's and their well being over your desire to attend. This is the most responsible approach and always was prior to C-19. If you're ill or have been around someone who is currently ill- stay home... Hope your roommate feels better soon and that you don't come down with anything...
Mrs.stkrdknmibalz·
I just got married on the 17th.
I had a lot of people cancel due to covid/whatever reason. Now idc about gifts or money but considering how expensive weddings freaking are I would’ve been so happy if someone who RSVPd offered to pay for their food if they weren’t coming last min.
Now with covid I wasn’t mad at all. It’s the people who never bothered to say anything and did a no show. At least you were considerate enough to at least message the person. I barely got that.
The EK 💋·
When you have a wedding during a pandemic, you can be surprised or angry when some people can’t come because they’re sick of quarantining 🤷🏼♀️