Anyone has a close love one that has a really bad drug abuse?
Well sadly i do!
My brother and i am sad my soul is sad im so worry i cant bearly live in peace is he ok is he alive this that is my phone gonna ring with bad new girls i am so afraid n hurt mad.. i dont kno wtf to dooooo i love him so much 😔😔😔😔 help me pray yalll please
You can’t help them until they want to get help. It sucks but people who love addicts become secondarily addicted to trying to “fix” them but only they can help themselves. Have you ever heard of al-anon meetings? They are designed specifically for loved ones of addicts. They have really useful information, therapy, groups, etc.
I agree you can't help them until they want help! My family and I used to try to help my brother and he never wanted it we would beg him he'd say ok and then never go. Sadly we lost him in October of 2013.
Omg i am sooooooo sorry you n your family had to indore such pain...
I will lose it 😔
it was very hard because we had lost a brother 8 months before I believe he started using more around that time. .
Don’t try to help them. Don’t enable it by giving them money or a place in ur house. They need to want the help or it’s just not happening. It’s tough love. Sometimes people need to hit rock bottom for a bit.
I completely cut off my sister when she was using. She got better but I cut her off again because she’s just a toxic bitch but you know 😅 I’ve seen it happen in hubs family too.
@momgroupreject, thank you soooo much i needed to hear this ❤️😔😏 im gonna be alright i have to be for my six boys ya kno! I had enough with the scares he gives up n bullshit
so they don’t need to see their mom giving into that either. He doesn’t need to be around them while actively using drugs at all. Again, his choice. Protect yourself.
I'm so sorry. I did have, my brother faught his addiction on and off for 20 years. He od 2 years ago. There is not right answer there is no right way to help. You can only do what's best for your dinamics. I tryed to help my brother in anyway I could I picked him up I gave him a home, never money, several years ago I was in a bad spot and he helped me out of my addiction I did everything I could to help him I told him I'd take him to rehab. I thought he was doing better he called me and asked to take his dog because he was scared the girlfriend was going to hurt him. I said I wouldn't bcuz I wouldn't help her he asked me for 3 days I said no Monday was the last day I explained to him how I'd do anything for him but I can't help her and he od Tuesday night with her watching it all happen. I blame myself for a lot of it. I could have done more somthing different took the dog. The phone somthing, beat the girlfriend, But it wasn't my fault I did everything I could as time goes on I'm learning this and it's helping take some of that blame off me, Addiction is a life long struggle it gets easier but never goes away. But when it comes down to it noone wants to be a addicted it fucking sucks. Have you tryed a intervention? When ur on drugs ur brain rewires itself, u forget that ppl love you that there is more to life withdrawaling is the hardest thing to do it hurts so much but it's worth it. It's just way harder to get there then anyone knows. Ik everyone is going to say you can't help them that don't want it but from experience I didn't want it I didn't think I needed it but without it I would be dead no doubt. Ig in this big blabber you just gotta do what you think is right for your family you may not be able to "save" him but atleast you can say you tryed. And maybe it will help.
@hakunamafuckitall, aww poor baby 🥺 stop shit you just made me cry in this damn suite alone... i pray my boys dont have to go threw that they love their crazy uncle lol..n idek what do you usually tell her do she know he passed im not sure your beliefs but may b point up tell her hes in heaven watching over her idk that would of left me breathless i get it trust me i really do
@rememberjerika2000 don't cry! Lol we are very open so we talk about life alot she knows about death, she says she talks to him at night and she says she talks to my grandma too she passed before wynter was born. At first I was like okay she over heard somthing. But then she started singing this song and I'm like uhh where did u hear that and she said the lady in my room sings it to me at night. ( Song my grandma sang to me every night) then she saw a pic of my grandma when was on her like yearly 30s and was like mom thats the lady in my room. And that gave me comfort in a weird way ik they are looking over her still.
@hakunamafuckitall, omg really thats so sweet.. maybe one day she will tell you something about your brother or something thats so sweet!
My brother went down a very dark path. I worried and cried nearly everyday for 6 years. It was so emotional for our entire family. I am happy to say he is nearly two years sober! There is hope. Miracles do happen. If you ever need to talk, message me!
Thank you thank you soooo much i wanna be able to say that one day i wanna see him doing good taking care of hes girls n boys man i pray he gets better n puts this shit to rest this shit for the birds i need my brook (brother) back i do. I dont kno this person 🤦♀️😏😔
THANKS TO ALL THE LADIES WHOM TALKED TO ME N TOLD ME THEIR PERSONAL STORIES I KNO THATS NOT A EASY THING TO DO N GAVE ME INFO GOD KNOWS I NEEDED!!
I HAVE FAITH ❤️ AGAIN THANK YOU GIRLS GOD BLESS YOU ALL!
Mamabirdddd·
You can’t help them until they want to get help. It sucks but people who love addicts become secondarily addicted to trying to “fix” them but only they can help themselves. Have you ever heard of al-anon meetings? They are designed specifically for loved ones of addicts. They have really useful information, therapy, groups, etc.
Breanna Almaraz·
I agree you can't help them until they want help! My family and I used to try to help my brother and he never wanted it we would beg him he'd say ok and then never go. Sadly we lost him in October of 2013.
jessica rivera··
Omg i am sooooooo sorry you n your family had to indore such pain...
I will lose it 😔
Breanna Almaraz··
it was very hard because we had lost a brother 8 months before I believe he started using more around that time. .
jessica rivera··
i am so sorry hun... its tuff