Does your 3 year old not listen??? Kids push boundaries and dont listen the first time, i know this is beyond not…

Does your 3 year old not listen??? Kids push boundaries and dont listen the first time, i know this is beyond not listening. She does literally what she wants when she wants and if i raise my voice just the slightest she crys and if i tell her shes in time out she'll try to sit where she wants to. I told her its time to stay in her room tonight and settle down. A little earlier then usual. But not by much. My feet hurt so bad. So after making dinner and cleaning it up. I said they can watch tv or play a little. Well here is my 3 year old somehow snuck in the refrigerator and took cheese out and now it's smeared on the carpet.... so i sakd its done tonight. She needs to go to her room. Left after a little to cleab the cheese up out kf the carlet less then a minute shes out. Came out 5x back to bsck for no alart reason. Just to run around. So i had to put the gate up. Because between her and my oldest. Im going to go insane. Believe it or not the 1 year old is less work!!!!?