Advice:🙋🏽 ♀ My 21 month old is in this hitting/scratching and throwing phase and it driving us nuts.…
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My 21 month old is in this hitting/scratching and throwing phase and it driving us nuts. I don’t believe in hitting my children. We been sending him to his crib when he does it and we say no that’s not nice don’t do that. We try to stay calm and get him to understand but it doesn’t work. He keeps doing it and it makes it hard for my 7 year old to play with him or even try to help him out. We have to separate them more than they are together and it’s getting to be to much. It’s causing me and my husband stress because he continues to do it even after he’s let out of time out in his crib. Any advice ?
Stephanie·
First question is WHY is he is doing it.
More than likely redirect, give him a pillow ball and tell him to hit or throw that instead of siblings, explain to older kids what steps to take when the baby hits them. When he hits them pay more attention to child that was hurt, asking if they are okay and check on them, we use soft hands, be so gentle. Maybe practice with stuffed animals or baby doll. Practice makes perfect!
This is what I'm doing right now for biting. He is super sweet but he gets frustrated and doesn't know what else to do. This age they have so much going on in their little heads and bodies. I wouldn't send him to his bed (he will end up giving you a hard time when it's time to sleep) maybe a relax/cool off spot.
Toni 🌸🌟💕·
It seems like he’s doing it when he wants to play and wants his brother to run around with him and when he’s upset it gets worse. When we tell him to stop he gets more mad and wants to throw things even more. My oldest is making a game out of it with the baby and it makes him think it’s ok. Like when the baby scratches him my oldest will start running and laughing sometimes and the baby thinks oh he likes it and wants to play and then they start running around and the baby keeps trying to scratch him and if he can’t get him he will pick up a toy and throw it. I try to tell my oldest not to do that it makes him thinks it’s ok. I tell him to say no we don’t hit or no we don’t throw that’s not nice. But it hasn’t been working. I think because he gets so upset from being scratched all the time he might forget.
I do need to work on focusing more of my attention on my oldest when he gets hurt. I ask him is he ok and stuff but I been focusing the attention on trying to get the baby to stop and trying to speak up for my oldest. . I will definitely be trying the redirecting with pillows or stuff animals .
I don’t send him to sleep I just send him to hogs crib for like time out for a few minutes in hope it will help him calm down and stop but it hasn’t being working for us. Only making him more upset. That’s just like my baby he’s super sweet and loving and full of energy but he turns into this little demon when he’s doing these things.
Your Worst Nightmare 😘·
Put his butt in the corner or make a naughty step and even when your in public make one don’t let them manipulate you that’s the age they start if not sooner
Toni 🌸🌟💕··
What’s a naughty step? I try not to let him get over on us. He’s pretty good when we go out besides if he ready to get out the shopping cart he starts crying a bit but it’s just at home he acts out. He even missed the TV up today throwing a car the TV is on the wall . I hope he gets out of it soon. I’m trying to be consistent it’s so hard.
Your Worst Nightmare 😘··
it can be anything a box a ,square you make and tape it to the floor with paper a chair anything really but when he does that just tell him ok no two minutes cuz he’s two and that’s along time for him I’m sure and just keeping putting him back each time until he does the full 2 minutes
Toni 🌸🌟💕··
thank you! I’m going to try this. He did good the last 2 days. Minimal throwing and hitting which was nice to see the boys play again. We got more consistent with him so I think it’s helping.