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Do you and your significant other share the same political views? If not, do you still discuss politics together?

My fiancé and I got together at 19. We are now 32. During our 20s neither of us were into politics much. Now that we are older and understand what's going on, I'm finding out our political views don't match much. Its starting to cause tension between us because he's been off work (winter is his off season), is going down a political rabbit hole, and wants to discuss politics constantly because of it. I don't know how to fix this. Any advice would be very helpful!
26.01.2021

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raqueliiosiis
raqueliiosiis
Honestly, I refuse to do anyone that’s political views don’t align with my own.
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no062014
no062014
We do share political beliefs. But we dont tend to be hard towards one side or the other. But i have learned recently that even in a marriage some topics are better left untouched. My bil grandparents had an agreement to never discuss politics. They were married 60 years till he passed away. And bil gram still doesnt discuss politics ever and it makes for a really peaceful holiday at her house
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somebodysmama2
somebodysmama2
We don’t and we don’t talk about it. Lol
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raisingblueyedbabiesx2
raisingblueyedbabiesx2
We agree on some we don't agree on others a healthy debate is always good. Iv done it with a few on hear.i think it's good to see others views even if we don't share them. I dont believe politics should be a reason to feel like a choir or tension though maybe you should set boundaries on how far into and how frequently you talk about it. We only talk about it in the morings and not every moring after work is a no. There are things we both know get us heated so we just don't talk about them he has his thoughts I have mine and we leave it at that lol.
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iltoco
iltoco
Thank you ladies! We get along great besides this issue. We just had to have a discussion to help clear the air. I respect his views and thoughts on politics, I want to hear his thoughts as it IS something he is passionate about. But we need to set some boundaries and agree to disagree on certain topics. Its okay to disgree, its not okay to start an argument over it.
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icebergahead
icebergahead
Most of them, yes and if we are not in the same page then we agree to disagree.
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jenx
jenx
My husband and I agree politically for the most part, but we do have a few lively discussions on topics within that. We get exasperated with each other at times but we are respectful.

He was raised to sit at the kitchen table and debate and shout about what you believe in. He has family members who no longer speak to each other. There are certain people my daughter hardly knows because of this. My family doesn't discuss politics hardly at all, even if we agree.

I find political discussion tends to be very divisive and is incredibly personal to people. Most people can't get over it.

I know I express an opinion on here but if you knew me at work or something you wouldn't know my political opinions.

I firmly believe every citizen needs to vote every election and then let it go. You hire someone to do a job and let them do it. If you don't think they're doing a good job, vote them out.

I think we've gotten into a bad habit of barfing our opinions out about everything on each other and it isn't good. Our grandparent's generation didn't post their every whim on social media and they got along a lot better and were more productive in my opinion.

So that long winded ramble can be summarized as: if you get along otherwise, don't discuss politics. You each go vote privately and leave it at that.
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mujerstillregal
mujerstillregal
Yes, for the most part we do. Have you talked to him about how it makes you feel? You guys could agree to not discuss politics. If he brings up politics, don't engage, and change the subject or walk away, idk 🤷🏿‍♀️
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humblewarriormama
humblewarriormama
My husband and I got together when I was 19 and he was 21 and now we’re 32 and 33. As we’ve become more political, it is emphasizing how we’re different. He’s more Republican for the business aspects (hates Trump though) and I’m very much more concerned for human and women’s rights. I don’t know where to label myself to be honest. There’s areas we really disagree on and those topics we try and avoid. If we do try to talk about them, we have established rules of engagement and once we start breaking them it’s time to stop and move onto something else. Doesn’t always work but it’s better than hating each other for the next few hours or days.
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justgotaname
justgotaname
It drives me nuts that it seems like we can’t have “moderates” anymore. I feel like all the talk is “far left” and “far right.” There can still be moderate Democrats & Republicans!!
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blueismycolor
blueismycolor
@justgotaname, so true. I feel like I’m right in the middle. I’m more conservative on some things and more liberal on others. I don’t like being lumped into one particular party.
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humblewarriormama
humblewarriormama
@justgotaname, I agree. And my relationship is so much more than about politics. My husband and I have different political priorities and at the end of the day, that’s okay. He’s got a great 🍆, loves my cooking, supports my personal and career goals, is a great father, and is someone I enjoy spending my time with.
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mom2godzillaandwonkypets
mom2godzillaandwonkypets
We don't see 100 percent on politics and some ways of life there is alot of things we agree on and some we dont...we were raised so different. We respect each other though.
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scream.queen
scream.queen
For the most part. There's times we disagree on some topics so we just let it alone. He's not huge into politics though.
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professor.hashbrown
professor.hashbrown
Yes. Thank god. It would be messy otherwise
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mybabybear
mybabybear
I always wonder if couples with different political views are “compatible”. I can’t imagine having different views on important subjects and still have the same values. I feel like the values would be different.
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no062014
no062014
Yep. My bil grandma and her spouse were married 60 years before he passed away. Since the day she could vote she refused to discuss politics. She said it made for a long and happy marriage. Neither of them ever discussed their political beliefs with anyone.
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massgirl
massgirl
My ex husband and I didn't share the same political views....when we got together he was very liberal but eventually he started becoming very conservative. (This was when Obama was president, and he was in the military 🙄)after a while I just refused to talk to him about it. I didn't engage when he spewed off random beliefs because we were never going to see eye to eye...thank God we broke up before Trump was president.
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supermomof4
supermomof4
My husband and I are about the same. We discuss it lightly together but we tend to argue quite a bit so we don’t get into huge discussions anymore. We agree to disagree about it.
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