Has anyone had to pretend that their marriage is perfect that nothing is wrong and that your extremely happy just to protect your little ones from hurting and so they can have daddy around
I’m willing to sacrifice my happiness for my kids
For my kids I’ll do anything
And for them I’ll continue to pretend everything is ok when deep down inside I’m falling apart
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It’s not healthy at all
It had drained me emotionally and physically
I’m at my braking point
I did this for 4 years but eventually it takes everything out of you. It was to the point I was committed, dead, or I finally walked away so I walked away
I wish I could just walk away but we live in my house
Unfortunately he has nowhere to go so idk what would happen to him if he leaves
A few years back when my son was a baby yes there was so bad things in our life and to protect my son I stayed ... now I loved my husband but it was a bad time and bad things but the only was I knew my son was safe was for me to stay and pray the help would come...and now 3 years later we are safe and happy as we will ever be given what our family went though
@queenbitch yeah I understand that my situation was pry alot different
@kush_queen420, my oldest is starting to notice something is wrong
He’s 17 and old enough to understand what’s going on
@queenbitch, yeah I’m sure I knew between my parents at 5 lol
Are you saying their dad wouldn't be a part of their lives if you guys split?
Your happiness counts. This will eventually get the best of you, then your kids will see an unhappy mom and that itself is NOT good for your kids.
@dontblockmesis-imjustspeakingfacts agreed. I grew up with 2 parents who didnt believe in divorce because they were raised Christians, they however didnt hide their unhappiness or hatred for one another. I would hear them often say "if it wasnt for M, I would have divorced you" implying they were only together because of me. I watched that growing up and it made me always have automatic insecurities in my own relationships. It definitely wasn't what was best for me. What would've been best for me was them splitting up, seeing them both happy as individual people.
Yep, it really doesnt matter what the situation is, if you have negative feelings about someone or something and you hide it, ignore it, it eventually will build up and explode making the situation much worse on the individual who was trying to hide it and those around them.
Once he walks away I know he won’t be there for the kids
@m.xoxo, I grew up in a household like that
My parents hated each other
Fuk no that’s the stupidest thing you can do is hide shit kids aren’t dumb and ur happiness is important don’t shy away from change cuz it’s hard that’s the point ... when I got rid of the dead weight I was relieved I’ll never be unhappy for no loser and my kids won’t either they deserve more then a life of chaos and bs
I know exactly what you mean
My kids are happy having him around and when he’s not they always ask for him so I rather avoid all of that and just suck it up for my kids
I can kinda relate to you . I’m not that happy or feel secure in my relationship but Im still here because I rather have my son be with his father everyday than to seeing him 2 or 3 times a week . It’s just a very complicated feeling
Yea that’s exactly how they feel
I already have 1 kid that grew up without a dad and I don’t want my other kids to go through that so I’m willing to sacrifice my self for them
One of my close mom friends was doing this for the longest and she is now to the point where she is divorcing her husband now. I don’t think that’s healthy.