Calling Blended families, how did your family handle this transition? It went from me and my 2 to…
Calling Blended families, how did your family handle this transition? It went from me and my 2 to me, my boyfriend, my 2 and his 2. My family hasn’t been very welcoming of the other 2 kids. Whereas my boyfriends family has welcomed me and and my children in wonderfully. It makes me sad because my bf and his his 2 are part of the package now. And I don’t know how to get that through to my side. This is new to me so I’m hoping for some good advice.
Icebergahead·
Мама сына (9 лет)
It was me and my Dd to me dd and hubs. Transition was great. Family has been very welcoming.
Maybe time will be your help. Some things take time but hang in there. If your family is not open towards his children then that is sadly on them🤧
Is there a reason for it that they have addressed?
Feeney··
I don’t know if they’re just not used to it or what but when inviting me to things they specifically say you and the kids and things like that. Specifically saying me and my kids. I’m sure it’ll take time. It just bothers me
Icebergahead··
Мама сына (9 лет)
if you have not already, I would at least tell them that all 4 children are together and you do not want to single two out when it is a family event.
I am so sorry😣
What's It To You?·
Can't speak for my side as he doesn't have any kids except the one we have together but we stopped going to his families house for holidays. We were together for 3 years before we had my youngest so I didn't expect much from them except respect. They still, 6 years later, treat my oldest differently. Nobody is allowed at my youngests birthday parties if they didn't attend my oldests. I have it that way because it's highly unfair to her and I refuse to subject her to that emotional pain. It's fucked up because they themselves have blended families as well so it's like wtf.
Jessie Lauvray·
Well I can only speak on a few things. We have kids together but he has a son from a previous relationship. BUT my family has opened up to them and has accepted his son as my own since day 1 (5 years together this month) that's just how my family is. His family on the other hand doesnt really like me from the vibes I get from them. They're always asking about his psycho ex because shes always doing messed up crap and his one aunt and I got into it over some stuff. But they still favorite his oldest son more than they do our kids together. Always asking about him only and not our 3 kids together. It's sad though. My family sees more of all our kids than his family. His mom doesnt really keep our kids my son has only ever stayed with her 1 time and hes 4 now. My mom keeps our kids all the time every weekend for a night. Hopefully someday it changes. I think that if it's new it can take time maybe they dont want to get attached to have them ripped apart from the family . But if it's like how I'm treated 5 years later they never accept it . Just tell them you're a packaged deal and if they cant treat his kids right too than they dont need to be apart of that life. My son is only 4 and he knows his older brother gets more attention and treated better than him
Kids realize stuff. And it's sad.
Feeney·
I definitely need to say something. To my family. I hope as time goes on they get it. Thank you guys I’m just disappointed my family is being asshats lol