So my little one stopped breathing at 15 days old, got rushed into hospital, to find he had bronchitis. The little chunk is now 10month old and my anxiety is through the roof he eating stuff a 7 month eats. I am struggling to let him eat the things he should be eating but cannot get past the gag reflex that babies do when they are learning. I will openly admit I have a problem... he is still on the monitoring mats that send off alarms.
I got advised to part with it at 6 months. I cannot. Really am struggling to let go. Close my eyes at night and its all I see. I cannot let it go, but obviously am strong 💪 for my kids but when it come to food I can't help him grow up and let him eat what he should be.
His first tooth has recently broken through too.
Anyone been through similar?
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This brought tears to my eyes. Ok I'm crying lol. Funny how our little ones can easily stop us doing things we know we should. Unconditional love is an amzing gift. I love my boys with even oz of my being, my ten month old is starting to pull himself up now. Won't be long till he is walking. Yer I know the gag is normal, but everytime my heart goes in my mouth. I panic and take it off him 😭 I know its wrong. But I cant help it. Seriously have a problem 😔 i know I will never get over it but I cant seem to let him "grow up"
@tashacoombes89 there are some areas I'm much more lenient. My LO loves to climb and I've read a lot about the benefits of exploring and seeking danger and having accidents because it allows them to assess their surroundings and make risk assessments so if I see my LO is about to fall, I bite my tongue. And he falls, and if he is hurt I cuddle him and explain how he came to be hurt. Other times he will simply look at me and wait for me to react which I don't so he Carrie's on. He will then carry on his dangerous activity so I cant say he always uses it as an opportunity to risk assess and decide its too dangerous lol but I do have to tell myself that if this the way I want to raise him, seeking his own adventure and taking his own risks, I need to be prepared for the day he breaks a bone. But that is a talk I have with myself, I dont want to stop him exploring and climbing and seeking adventure so rather than him change his ways I know I will have to change mine.
I should add that I was a qualified pediatric first aider when he was born and have since been on further training so I know that I can be prepared. The time he choked on the apple gut instinct just kicked in I immediately pulled him from this chair, threw him upside down on my knee and began thumping his back. I know it isnt rocket science but I'm so glad I had that training and knew what to do instead of panicking x
Hi hun I have bad anxiety about things niamh eats due to her having allergys when she was smaller. I still worry now when all shes allergic to is raspberry as shes grown out of the milk allergy. I constantly look for rashes and things but slowly getting better x
My anxiety is terrible. Got to return to work in couple weeks being on maternity and then furloughed. So havent returned back... just the thought of going back makes me break down.
@tashacoombes89 I understand i have to put niamh into nursery soon and im.nervous because if she has raspberry by accident then she's covered in hives and a sore tummy
My LO never suffered any problems and I took his monitor mat out after 12 months possibly a bit more, its peace of mind. He is 2.5 now and I will go in every night and listen to him breathe or re position him. We have a camera but it isnt always hooked up as he has other things plugged in. As for eating gagging is a healthy reaction, it is not choking. My Lo choked on apple skin when he was 1 and I've yet to give him apple again, i dont think you are doing anything wrong so long as you don't increase your worries ro other areas and begin to limit your childrens experiences xx