My daughters dad and I have family therapy for the first time on Monday. Now I want to back out. I…
My daughters dad and I have family therapy for the first time on Monday. Now I want to back out. I think we have great communication but not enough understanding. I don’t want it to be a bashing session but I have to bring up the past because that’s what’s really affecting me. I’m actually nervous to hear what he has to say as well. What if putting everything out in the open makes things worse or brings light to things I don’t want to accept? Anyone felt like this before going to therapy ?
JenX·
I think it is good to lead with the positives, too. Or at least have a list of them. Like how you two communicate well. That can help soften the blow of anything not so positive.
Mandy·
Yesss. But it must be done. Honestly I pretended I wasn't affected by the things my ex husband did when we went and look where we are. We've spoken maybe 3 time over the last three years and all of it was related to court matters.
Just state that you're not looking to bash him but you want him to understand what lead you to how you're feeling today so you can move forward. Good luck hun ❤️
XryztalRoze·
Mama, it's normal to feel this way but obviously you're going to get the therapy for a reason. The first step is always the hardest. And even though you feel your communication together is good, keep in mind that proper understanding is the end result of good communication, so if there isn't understanding the communication needs help. You've got this. Sometimes it takes talking about the past to help make a brighter future. It doesn't have to be a bashing session as you out it, it's not so much what you say but how you say it and address it. You're stronger than what is behind you and blessed for what is in front of you. Hugs.
deleted-user·
Well it can be helpful for you both... And it is normal to feel like before going. And just go with a open mind. What ever is said just breath through it.
Sistersmainpiece·
Thank you ladies