Im really struggling. I have an almost 4 year old and he has anger issues like 1 min he will be okay and next hes…

Ahhh yes. I felt like age 3 was the worst with my boy. He was the same. No matter what I did didn’t help much. He got better once he turned 4. What helped is just Talking to him. Not just saying “no” but explaining the why and the consequences behind the no. And then redirecting him or solving his issue by giving him choices. It made him feel more control of the situation. Still works! He’s a very affectionate little boy so that’s in his favor. If I just hugged him and held him sometimes he’d calm down. For the toys, I wouldn’t give him ANY. hide them in garbage bags and use them as reward maybe. I’m sure one day he’ll be asking for a toy again.

My daughter was like that I just eventually took everything out of her room and she got on meds

U haven’t failed. From 2 to almost 5 my youngest was a bear. He was a really tough toddler. Just stick to one form of discipline, I suggest times out or taking things away, no spanking. It doesn’t teach much except to be scared of u. And stick with it. It’s going to be tough and challenging but if you’re consistent it will work out better

Ah its okay kids go though a lot of emotions and they don't always know how to handle them my daughter goes though these spells I like to sit her down and put my four head on hers and talk about what she is feeling and why the first few times went like shiylt but now she tell me mom im mad and I want to talk about it so we sit down and talk she still has her burst but nowhere likr she used to.