Had a family meeting this morning... grandfather said he had two "mini strokes" ( he says shit like this for attention) from stress and basically said our daughter Ji is the cause of it cause she is a very intelligent and sometimes challenging kid...told us we can stay as long as we need but where are we at with buying a house...dont really feel welcome..this is the second time he has said something like to about the babies MY babies..now I'm feeling like a low-key bad mom cause my toddlers are just that..toddlers and yeah they run jump scream and sometimes have meltdowns they are kids and we are all learning...my husband finally sees why we need our space now rather than later and says not to worry his grandfather is full of shit...which he is an angry negative controlling old man and I should allow him to make me feel anyway...currently working on that...but I'm also mad as hell