Even though OH has said he is willing to try for no2, I think I've decided not to. Our entire…
Even though OH has said he is willing to try for no2, I think I've decided not to. Our entire relationship and lives changed after LO, we argued a lot, mostly about responsibilities and house work and I felt like a lonely single mom and so depressed. I lost my job because I was so tired and even though I'm now in an amazing mom-friendly workplace I just dont know that I can put myself through it all again
Ashleigh·
It may be different second time. First baby is always a very stressful experience. Neither of you have any idea what you're doing. I felt very different having my second xx
Jamie·
Its a decision only you can make, but I've honestly found that a second baby has put so much less strain on our relationship. Me and my partner argued a lot after our first was born, we were both tired and stressed, neither of us knew what we were doing. Second time around we've genuinely had one little bicker since she was born and she's eight weeks old. I've found that having two is no harder than having the one. I mean you're newborn level tired again but the small age gap meant that we were bother prepared for the tired. I've found that it's a completely different experience having a second baby X
Kelsey·
Мама сына (1 год)
I definitely dont think you should do it until you feel mentally in the right head space to go ahead with it. I feel like I want a second but I've thought about it a long time and have come to terms with the fact that if I have another I know what my OH is like and I will probably end up doing 90% of it on my own. We will probably argue less because of that because I know if I have another I know what I'm in for and that he wont help much. I didnt know that the first time which is why we argued so much xx
Kelsey··
Мама сына (1 год)
@stacey1991 I think you're being too hard on yourself by the sounds of it! First of all, you've brought a child up to 2 years and 4 months basically on your own. Give yourself a pat on the back! I take so much pride in that when I look at tommy, I've basically done it on my own. If I can do that I can most certainly do it again if i wanted to. Car sickness is stressful yes but it wont last forever as with most of the challenges we face bringing them up. I feel like you need to change your mindset as you need to be positive about all you have achieved. Like I said if I have another I know I will have the expectations of doing it mostly on my own. That will cause less conflict, but dont ever feel like a bad mum! Everyone does it in their own time, just try and get yourself into a more positive space before even considering it. I know its disappointing when the other halves dont help out as much as we would like but if single mums can do it so can we. 😊 I'm here if you ever need a chat xx
S··
Мама сына (2 года)
thank you for this comment, it made me a bit emotional!! You're so right most of the time I really beat myself up yet other days I do sit and think wow I'm really proud of how much I've managed to do on my own. Xx
Kelsey··
Мама сына (1 год)
you're welcome lovely you should be proud of yourself ❤ xx