Am I being unreasonable?

Am I being unreasonable?

A month ago, my husband’s best friend’s little brother died unexpectedly of a severe asthma attack. This Saturday there’s a memorial party in his honor in Philly. Now we live a good 2 hours away in northern NJ and NJ is constantly adding states to the travel advisory list. Now, originally we were both going to go, but then numbers started creeping again after things started opening, so we decided the boys and I would stay home. I know his bestie has been quarantined, as have we, so he slept over Tuesday night, to help himself feel better by being with family (he’s both boys’ Gd father). With numbers changing, and after hearing him talk to his mom on the phone about the amount of food they need (so masks off to eat), I don’t feel comfortable with Matt going, and I told him so. I told him that if he goes, he’s putting all of us at risk, making me feel like he’s putting his friend over our safety. I also told him that if he goes he has to quarantine for 2 weeks, and not at home (there’s no reasonable place here for him to do that anyways) because I don’t want him to bring something into the house. It’s not fair to me to be a single mom for 2 weeks because of a friend. I get that our friend is hurting, but we were there for him on Tuesday/Wednesday, and he knows he can repeat at any time. Our family’s safety needs to come first.

He’s upset, but not angry, but he waited until I went outside to come up from the office to grab his lunch.