So I’m dealing with extreme gender disappointment and people keep responding to it with “at least it’s healthy. That’s all that matters. You’ll be okay” or “oh you’ll change your mind, boys are great! I love mine!” like yes it’s great that the baby is healthy and it’s great that you like being a boy mom but that was never the life I saw for myself. As soon as the nurse told me it was a boy I felt immediately disconnected from the pregnancy and cried for hours. And then I felt guilty for crying and being so upset that I cried even more and felt even more disconnected. There is nothing I look forward to in having a son. Like nothing at all. I don’t like any boy names, I hate looking at boy clothes, there are no activities I look forward to. I really hope I’ll bond with him before he’s born because I don’t want to go through ppd like I did with my daughter. I just don’t know how to make it better and friends and family aren’t helping at all by saying all this stuff. Like I can’t grieve over the fact my whole life has to change now because all I know are my daughter and step daughter. I love being a girl mom to the max! I love every part of having girls. I never wanted to have a boy and it was naïve of me to never consider that I could have a boy if I got pregnant again but I didn’t even think it was possible for me because being a girl mom just feels so right. And if your a boy mom this is no disrespect to you whatsoever. And I’m not saying I want to get rid of my baby. I just don’t know how to cope with the gender disappointment before he’s born. I don’t want him to be born and I still feel disconnected. I’m so confused and I feel like I can’t talk to anyone about how I actually feel without being criticized or told to be grateful.