Would you consider this cheating? What would you do I need advice from a neutral stand point. Genuine advice of what you would do. Ds had his tonsils out last night. For some reason my gut about dh was not good. At night I logged into his Snapchat and saw he was talking to an old friend who he had a thing with. Last thing I was able to see was him saying it was hard to not log into those pictures and she then said she couldn't answer the phone because she was with her husband. I texted dh and asked what pictures was it so hard for him to not look at and I guess he called her and they talked. And she supposedly came clean to me and said they would just talk and vent about what stresses them. Dh said the same thing and I guess the pictures were of them from a long time ago of them and other friends hanging out. Dh started crying saying he never meant anything that everything looked like the perfect crime but that there was nothing there. I have since kept my distance and told him to give me space. At the moment I don't want to see him. I believe what they said but I'm so hurt and I don't want to be the stupid person to believe everything.
Me:hey I'm calling to know if you got the order I sent for your kids Her : yea I got it a while ago been too busy to say thank you and tell you with school and stuff. Thank you they like the toys and are sleeping g with them Me: aww I'm so happy Her : my daughter shoes are hurting her feet and I do t have money to buy new shoes Me: what size is she ? Her :13 w Me: you should get her size one I think I might have some here I'll give them to you Her: I just threw away a bunch of shoes you gave me they are too big dont fit my kids Stop giving me shoes I'm tired of throwing them out Me : but you can save them until they fit them they are going to grow into them Her: stop giving me shoes I'm tired of you giving me shoes that dont fit them Me: ok :( Her: I have to go I'm cooking
My beautiful little girl went to be with God, her baby sister, and her uncle yesterday morning! I wish so badly that she was still here with me. She was my best friend and my rock. My beautiful sweet baby! My heart went with her! I will never stop missing you my beAutiful Hannah Nicole! Moms always trust your gut feeling and NEVER believe a doctor when they try to change your mind. My baby would still be here with me if the doctors just listened. She went to have a pik line put in which is like a simple IV but bigger. It involves anesthesia to be put in. Well I been begging the doctors to let her see a lung specialist for a week now! They kept saying no it's not her lungs it's her heart! Well they knew she was sick with a cold...I told them I felt it was more than that....they didn't listen and when they sedated her for the procedure they couldn't ventilate her lungs because she had phnemonia!!!!! And since they could only get one ventilated and not the other she's gone!!!! All because they did not listen to me!!!! Y'all she was perfectly fine before she went back!!! The killed her!!!!! And I feel like maybe I should have fought harder!!!!!!!!!! I knew it yalllll!!!!!!!!! I told them!!!!!!! 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
What would you do? - baby shower SO my mom has been very negative about the baby my entire pregnancy. Especially in the beginning, she said the most HORRIBLE things about me, my DH and my unborn baby. Like that I was making a big mistake, that I was making her 2015 the worst year ever... etc etc. Even when she would do nice things she made me feel like I was a HUGE inconvenience and a burden to her. She told me to definitely NOT expect a shower or anything like that from her. Fine, whatever, I don't need her, I didn't have this baby for her to raise. I'm married, living on my own and paying all my own expenses.
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Yesss!! I don't really have a relationship with my father so I don't allow him at my house or bring my kids around him
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I just remembered a scary situation I had with the oldest half sibling. (There are 3 of them from my fathers previous marriage.) A few years ago my oldest half sibling made a false allegation against me and used my father who already wasn’t mentally well at the time to help him. (I may have mentioned this before on here.) So what would have happened was that if I didn’t get a lawyer on time, I would have been arrested and my mother. My half siblings plan was that he was gonna try taking the apartment away, change the locks and take my son away from me. He’s jealous because he didn’t have kids so he wanted to steal my son from me. I don’t know what rights people have when they are arrested but that is scary. I also don’t know how long it would have been to prove my innocence if I was in jail but that scares the crap out of me because he would have been capable of doing so much to my son and the other 2 half siblings would have helped him. He was very close to getting away with it.
AJ·
Basically my half sibling claimed I did fraud on my fathers account. He had power to attorney and had joint account with my dad back in 2017. He is a criminal known for theft. He goes in and out of jail all the time. My father was too blind to think he was using him. My father knows how he is but is blinded by favoritism and automatically covers up any wrong doings from that side of the family. That is dangerous and sickening at the same time. My father took favoritism to a whole other level. That still pisses me off because my mother and I take care of my father and he is ungrateful. We know for a fact that if he stayed with them, he would have been thrown out on the street when the money would have ran out or god forbid they would have killed him. We pretty much saved my father from his other kids.
AJ·
@mamaxkat89, I’m sorry to hear that. You did the right thing!
Sometimes my father is a jerk but he is lucky that we take care of him here. If things were a bit different he wouldn’t have been here. I almost didn’t want him here. I have a love hate relationship with him. It’s tough.
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My dad is a ex heroin addict but I know he still uses meth. He left us to do drugs and became homeless when I was 15. I'm 30 now and he's been trying to fix things but I know he still does drugs. He also is in a shitty mood most of the time and he feels entitled to our love and respect. I will never respect him again
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This is why my son has no contact with husbands side of family right now
AJ·
@mamaxkat89, I’m sorry to hear that. You are right not to trust having him around especially with the life style that he has. He wouldn’t be a good influence to your kids. I wish that things would have been different for you and that he didn’t chose that path. He reminds me a bit of my sons father. He chose drugs over my son. He never met my son and even though it hurt me at first, it was for the best. I didn’t want my son to be around him and drugs.
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Exactly that's why I refuse to have a relationship with him or let him be close to my children
Your Worst Nightmare 😘·
Yup family ain’t shit but a word 💯
AJ·
@mamaxkat89, I feel bad that people who live that lifestyle will choose drugs over family. That really sucks. So many relationships get destroyed because of that.
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I just wish he would get his life together