Yea its just hard with a 7 and a 2 year old especially when the 2 year old copies her sister on certain things. I'm constantly getting in to her about her bad habits abd not listebing and not doing what she's told and along the 2 year old doing the same thing is very frustrating. Oh i went so far where I scared both of them.

Time out (I will shut my son in a room and hold the door for 2-3 minutes and he hates it... even the threat of it now makes him stop in an instant) / taking toys away really works and has worked since my son was 2. I can’t speak for a 7 year old because I don’t have a child that age so I know my punishments will have to adapt. I do know i will never hit the kids, I think it shows a loss of control and I wouldn’t ever want to be violent towards my children. I believe we’re here to lead by example and if I hit when I’m angry / frustrated at them they will do the same.

I have 2 year old twins and I’m constantly getting after them, I count to 3 and if they don’t listen it’s time out time or they get their toy taken away but it’s a work in progress nothing happens over night

I've tried timeouts with my 7 year old that didn't work but i haven't yet done that with my 2 year old.

They are still learning. You are going to repeat yourself girl. I still do with all my kids and my husband! Try redirecting or time outs

No I don't I pop her on the hand sorry. Right I have been but no I don't spank my 2 year old only the hand but I don't do it to hard I do it where it catches her.

I mean I have to repeat myself constantly and my five year old is certainly pushing boundaries and not listening. You're probably crying out of guilt because at the end of the day what did spanking really teach them??