Question ladies! So I’ve been dating this guy, going good. Randomly tonight he tells me that if or…

Does he have any kids? I thought the same before I had a child.

Turn off for me.

That would also turn me off and it immediately showed me that he doesn’t have kids of his own.

If that’s something he won’t budge on there’s going to be sooooo many other things he won’t like with the kids around. He has to love them like his own in order for him to get any attention by you. Next!

That is totally normal for someone who doesn't have kids to say. My husband said he wasn't going to kiss our son. The first thing he did was kissed my son right on the lips when he first held him. Sometimes people just talk.

Yeah for me id be fine with cause we don't bring our kids to bed either 🤷‍♀️ they have their own space, we have ours

Obviously if they were tobe extremely sick and need to be monitored or breastfeeding, 100% different story. Id just say thats cute you think that and let it go🤷‍♀️

I’d be like yesss same 😂🙌🏼 and when You don’t have kids it’s easy to say o I won’t do this blah blah shut up ya you will... plus I’ve dated guys without kids and all they do is party and they don’t want responsibility fuk that

That’s wouldn’t be a deal breaker for me. He doesn’t have his own kids and so many things change when u have your own kids ya know? I also agree with @lii94, we don’t allow our kids in our bed anymore, they used to come in our bed but we put a stop to that a while ago

Me and My husband said the same thing and both boys landed up sleeping with us kaysen for 6 weeks kooper 6 months lol

I don’t know. I don’t think that’s a huge problem personally. We established early on that our daughter wouldn’t sleep in our bed because we felt it was best for everyone to have their own space to sleep without being disturbed. He could just be speaking based off of things he’s heard from friends or family and their negative experiences. Maybe the ex wife’s kids were always in their bed? It’s like the things you said you wouldn’t do before you became a mother. Some rules end up getting bent.

We said the same thing and 5 years hes has been sleeping with us every night and we still sat we were going to move him but then we never do. Lol things change when your tired and need sleep haha

Everyone is different for me it’s not a deal breaker. I never wanted my kids to sleep with me. They did when they were babies and I was breast feeding but that didn’t last long maybe a couple of weeks. The oldest never wanted to sleep with us she likes her own space and the youngest only sleeps with us if she has a night terror.

I wouldn't say it's a deal breaker. I don't want my kids in my bed but they sleep with me lol. My son doesn't anymore but my almost 2 yr old sleeps with us. Im mad at myself for it but I work 3rd shift and I guess hubs don't like sleeping alone. If he doesn't have kids it's normal to say this.