I made ths decision to go stay with my dad an hour away with my kids. Well I havent asked him yet…

I made ths decision to go stay with my dad an hour away with my kids. Well I havent asked him yet but I'm hoping he'll say yes. Its just really disappointing because I feel so judged. My kids father has told my parents things that weren't true. And he acts completely different around them that they are going to think it's me. I'm the problem. But this man is so mentally unstable, narcissistic and manipulative and I just am tired of looking like the mentally unstable one and the one who's causing every little thing. I am scared to even ask my dad. I love my life but at the moment I hate it.