is it wrong to be frustrated that my daughter acts like she can't do certain things with out my help. she plays dumb a lot and I wish I could be like no girl show what you know. she acts like she can't trace or match shapes so shes ask for "mommy finger" to help her so I barely hold her hand and she magically can do it but if I dont hold her hand she just scribbles and acts like she doesnt know
the pic is how she traces when I'm "helping her" otherwise it'll just be scribbles all over the page
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Oh my heart! 💔 did you just accuse your 2 year old of "playing dumb" shes 2!!!!! Holy hell, give her a break!!!!!!
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She can be doing it because she knows soon she won’t be getting g all your attention once new baby comes. She’s just trying to get all of mommys attention before she has to share you real soon with new baby. My daughter acted the same way before my son was born. Yes it does get frustrating just remember she won’t be an only child soon and she won’t be little for ever!! 😊
She might not yet have the control to do it solely on her own. You could try to do it with her as in you each have your own book, her seeing you work solo might encourage her to be like mommy and try it on her own. My 4 year old is on the spectrum and right now we are working with her on holding a pencil/crayon and scribbles are great! I would just take a deep breath, give her ample blank paper and let her at it. :) This needs to be about fun right now.
I’m editing to add that you might want to buy the fatter whiteboard expo markers- they might be easier for her to hold- we take our fine motor skills for granted, it is much more work for little ones. Example- you know those giant puffy Mickey Mouse gloves? Try putting one on and doing a writing activity- it will be very hard to make marks on the paper you as an adult already know how to do, so your steady hand might truly help her especially with that thin marker.
She's 2 she still needs mommy. She's still just a baby. My daughter will be 2 and can't do that. Your going to miss it when she won't need your help anymore.
It’s okay mama. That’s actually pretty impressive for a two year old. My 5 year old does the same.
Perhaps she senses that there will soon be another person needing your attention and wants to hold onto all of you as much as she can right now. At 2 she doesn’t have the ability to verbalize her emotions and thoughts, so she is going to demonstrate them the best way she knows how. It’s not negative or manipulation, it’s an attempt at communication.
@_slimm.shady_ girl what are you talking about?
thank you. in the moment it's hard for me to see it that way. I'm trying to baby her as much as I can while I can but at the same time getting her ready to be a big sister. that last sentence is going to stick with me for next time
@tammyarielc, it’s always hard to find the balance between independence and keeping them our babies forever. That struggle is never going to go away for any of us!
thank you, I help her with everything she likes to do. I try not to show my frustrations outwards but sometimes it just like "mina you know that's not what you're supposed to do"
I think it’s just how kids are at that age. My daughter is three and there’s things I know she can do like pull her own pants down to use the pot or put her pants on. Some days she’ll do it and I’ll let her and others she ask for my help and I help her. Just stay patient with her. My 7 year old does the same thing sometimes. I asked her why and she said sometimes she just likes for me to help her. Just be patient and understanding. My 3 year old cant even trace things she just likes to draw on stuff so that’s impressive lol.
awe that's cute my daughter does something similar, I randomly catch her with no pull up on but when it's time to take a bath and I tell her to take it off she's just stands there or she "struggles" to get it off lol.
This is really good for a 2yo. She isn't acting like she can't do it. I used to feel this way while teaching my son shapes, colors, letters etc. Because One day he would have it down the next day he would point to wrong things or call them the wrong name. So I can relate. I was convinced I was doing something wrong for him to just forget but like many are saying shes just 2. You just have to keep at it, it's ok if she needs your help/attention it's normal. just keep encouraging her. It will take a while but she'll get the hang of it. Dont be hard on her or yourself. Also keep in mind even if you get a lil bit frustrated they will pick up on it almost immediately which in turn will alter their emotions & ability to learn. So when you feel it happening take a break for a while maybe play a game or get a snack then come back to it later. And try not to have long periods of time while trying to teach her because she may get frustrated
Also try to get creative w/ it & make it fun. Google & pinterest have great ideas for make learning fun for toddlers
Idk if you let her have screen time but if so maybe download tracing & learning apps for toddlers. Where she can trace w/ her finger or a stylus
I really needed to hear this. it's hard for me to understand she could be forgetting because she does so well without me. being patient is a real task lately but if it's going to help her we are just going to need a lot of breaks and snacks as you mentioned lol. she has quite a few tracing apps and other learning stuff. it's so fun even I play it sometimes when she goes to sleep 🤣
@tammyarielc yes I couldn't understand how my son was forgetting things he just knew! But like I said give it time & like poster above said repetition, help & attention is how they learn. & yes definitely do breaks, they will help both of yall!!
U so smart Barbie. 100% accurate statement that they forget things fron day to day. Even after a few hours they will forget. We had our abc’s down with my boys then didn’t practice for a little bit and my son like forgot the letters. I’m like wtf is happening here but then I remembered they don’t retain the info that easily. What u said is a great thing here to help @tammyarielc, understand more. I’m sure she appreciates this comment
I cant help but say, maybe she wants mommy to be more involved with her learning, which is natural for any child help her, dont make her feel in the wrong, she should still need you and that is okay!
She may just simply want you to be involved in what she’s doing...ie. sitting with her while she draws or traces.
She is only two & I don’t believe she is ‘playing dumb’, as you’ve said, I think she is simply still a baby & learning at her own pace. At that age kids will learn something & a few days later need a reminder on how to do said thing. They need the repetition & sometimes that requires you having to help...& to have more patience. Enjoy this time bc soon she’ll be doing everything by herself & you’ll miss these days. Let her be little, they’re only little for such a short time.
Also testing other boundaries, kids live to do that lol
@cuppacoffee, absolutely. I feel like they do that their whole life. 😂
@_slimm.shady_ not all 2 year olds need everything to be done for them. my daughter like to do a lot of things by herself so when she regresses, as a mother I'm going to be concerned. I dont want her to be independent but like I said I want her to show what she knows. if your child suddenly couldn't do something she has already mastered, would you not be questioning why?
@tammyarielc correct if she doesn't get frustrated by it. If she does then just go along with it
@tammyarielc how about let her be a baby don't force it don't get frustrated she's only 2 and is now gonna have to be a big sister and not your only baby so a lot changing for her. what are you going to do if she ends up with autism or adhd and needs that constant attention. I have a 7yr old with adhd you know how much work and constant attention he requires ya need to learn son patience darling you will need it and so will those babies
@maryfnpoppinsbitch I'm not forcing anything, she bring me the book and wants to do it, I still help her. I give her attention all day. I was concerned that she could be trying to get attention in a negative way but others have reminded me that regression is normal since I'm pregnant and that she can be forgetting certain things. I normally have patience but this pregnancy has been much different than my last and I'm very hormonal. hopefully I get my patience back after giving birth but as for now I'm trying
Oh my heart! 💔 did you just accuse your 2 year old of "playing dumb" shes 2!!!!! Holy hell, give her a break!!!!!!
Woah people need to lay off lol the poster just asked a simple question and is getting mom shamed pretty hard here. Anyways, yes, you're 38 weeks pregnant and get frustrated easily- it's okay! And I get it, my almost 2 year old is going through a phase where he wants me to do everything for him. For your daughter it might be a confidence thing, she feels like she can do it with you helping.
@ss3mom also I'm not frustrated that she scribbles, shes 2 and has entire journals of scribbles that I love. but she knows that her tracing books are drawing on the lines and I've seen her do it herself but when she asks me for help she only scribbles? idk I just dont completely understand why she regresses when I'm around
@tammyarielc, cause they always act out worse with their parents. It’s all normal I wouldn’t stress about it at all.
@erikak, I understand what you’re saying and @tammyarielc, you’re not the only pregnant mom who’s gotten frustrated with their child lol,
@massgirl no we haven't tried that yet. she begs me to let her trace so I do it with her. what type of cutting activities do you think would be appropriate
When my daughter was two she used safety scissors and would cut straight lines and circles that I drew on paper. After a while she did hearts and so on. It helped build her hand eye coordination. If it doesn't seem like she gets the scissor concept ( opening and closing to cut) then just hold off a few months until she's a little order and reintroduce it
@massgirl wow thanks my daughter would probably love that. I'm going to get her the materials
@tammyarielc no problem! I got my daughter safety scissors and paper from Dollar tree. Once she's 3 she can probably do scissor skill books that you can find at Amazon or Target if she has mastered the basic stuff on paper. Also always supervise with scissors 😉
she's 2.! what at 3 you want her drawing like a professional? give her some time and don't push her each child learns at their own pace
@tammyarielc, and because you're gettin mad that she's "playing dumb" like she doesn't know how to do it or doesn't at that time
@beautiful_disaster mad and frustrated are not the same thing but okay
@tammyarielc, okay frustrated mad whatever point is she is 2 years old she's not going to have a high attention span be glad she ask for help cause one day you're going to miss it
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My daughter is five and still pretends she can't do something when I know full well she can. It's her way of getting my attention because she knows that I'll stop what I'm doing and show her what needs to be done. This is likely what your daughter is doing.. remember children will learn behaviors and crave the ones that get them the most attention..good or bad...oh yeah and she's only two. That's pretty impressive for someone her age. Maybe starting introducing new skills since she mastered this. Have you tried to teach her cutting?
My daughter is the same way! Even if I’m helping her , she acts like she doesn’t know how to do it. It gets frustrating sometimes.
@j.concepcion right like I'm not mad at her it's just a "bruh 🤦🏾♀️" moment when shes pretending not to know
@tammyarielc, I definitely understand. Sometimes I get mad at my daughter because she acts like she doesn’t know but then I remember that she’s still little and still learning.
My 3 year old on the other hand, I had bought her a book like that but to trace numbers & letters. I gave her the book and she finished the whole book on her own. I didn’t have to tell her what to do or how to do it. Every kid is different.
She’s only 2 and it’s completely normal. She is only wanting your attention. Wanting your attention should not be taken a bad thing. Enjoy it while it lasts. One day she won’t need you at all and you’ll miss and want this.
Umm relax she’s 2 my kids can’t even hold a pencil and they are much older.
One day she won’t want your help treasure it. She’s 2 you should be proud of this and encourage her don’t be frustrated
thank I'm proud just extremely low on patience lately
I still help her
@_slimm.shady_ so a lot of women dont have patience at the end of pregnancy 😳
Yea at 2 that’s impressive. She’s so young still if she wants mommy’s help help her
thanks, I help her but my brain just can't understand how she can go from nearly doing it by herself to scribbling all over the page
@tammyarielc, kids that age don’t have a good attention span.
@tammyarielc, cause she’s 2 ans doesn’t have the mental capability to focus so much on one task. And she will draw all over the page cause it’s fun
She’s 2 years old!, you should be impressed she is even doing that.
oh I am I just wish she didnt act like she cant do it on her own. she has been pretending not to know stuff that I know she knows well like basic shapes and if shes doing it for attention I wish there was a way to tell her she doesnt have act like that in order to get attention
@tammyarielc, I think it’s pretty normal she will grow out of it, she’s still quite young and if she senses you get annoyed about it maybe that’s why she’s acting that way.
@tammyarielc she's 2 her attention span is very short so no surprise she's not gonna want to do it on her own
She may just simply want you to be involved in what she’s doing...ie. sitting with her while she draws or traces.
She is only two & I don’t believe she is ‘playing dumb’, as you’ve said, I think she is simply still a baby & learning at her own pace. At that age kids will learn something & a few days later need a reminder on how to do said thing. They need the repetition & sometimes that requires you having to help...& to have more patience. Enjoy this time bc soon she’ll be doing everything by herself & you’ll miss these days. Let her be little, they’re only little for such a short time.