Ok...so I don't usually do this, but I want honest advice....
Ok...so I don't usually do this, but I want honest advice....
So my son's 3rd birthday party was supposed to be Saturday at a location about 60 miles away. My family is very small...basically one sister (no kids), my grandma with dimensia, and my mom. My sister and mom both live 7 hrs away. My grandma lives where we do.
I had asked my sister 2 months ago to come up and handle my grandma that day because she is a handful and quite embarrasing with the things she says (always has done this...its not the dementia). She said she would try her best. I have brought it up 3 or 4 times since then and she brushed me off. Yesterday she said oh no, I can't come...I have to work this weekend. So I said ok...Ill cancel the party. Which I did. I had been very specific when I talked to her previously and said "I can't do this without your help"....she gets pissed at me about how ridiculous it is for me to ask her to come care for our grandma that day and how I was guilting her by cancelling the party. I told her if she thought it was ridiculous she could have told me forever ago
M_🖤·
She should of just of been honest with you and you could of figured something else out.
Also sometimes having to take care of someone alone who has dementia is overwhelming is there anyone else who can help with your grandma?
M_🖤··
@two.tiny.texans, I am sorry to here that.
Bean··
@michellemybell09 yeah, it's pretty sad for her 😔
M_🖤··
@two.tiny.texans, I can imagine 😩. My grandpa had dementia and he only had my dad around to help. It’s tough.
Dusty ·
Ugh I'm annoyed for you. Having a birthday party with kids is hard I'm a HHA and dementia is so challenging. She had to of known before now that she was working I'd of trip :[
Bean··
Oh I told her...she said she has to work but then made a whole deal about the drive was unreasonable for one day of helping out.
In the end was "Everyone works, I'm sorry you're tired...Im not trying to be a bitch but rememeber this when you have kids and you're so exhausted you can't add one more thing into your day. Because whatever you feel now isn't 1/10th of what you'll feel when you have kids". She didn't respond.
Dusty ··
@two.tiny.texans wow hope you get it figured out
Bean··
@hakunamafuckitall eh, its whatever. She probably won't talk to me for a while, her loss.