dtrimew16
Ariana Stevenson
Moms I want your opinion on this am I right or am I wrong for being upset?.... Ok so my 11 year old has been extremely defiant lately he won’t listen to me or my husband to do things and we have tried everything, groundings taking away electronic devices etc, but nothing seems to be working. He’s been grounded so instead of my husband taking away his new headset my mom got him for Christmas, he makes him go outside and smash it with a hammer. I’m all for taking things away, and that’s what I wanted to do, but my argument is my mom spent her hard earned money on that thing. I’m upset about this. Am I wrong?
10.01.2020
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massgirl
Money aside I feel like this is straight up emotional abuse. Making him do it himself will only cause further resentment and cause his behaviors and defiance to escalate. Have you tried taking him to counseling.
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mumma_0fo2
Try coming down to his level and seeing why he is acting out If he dont wanna talk or anything good ass whip never hurt
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mumma_0fo2
Shyt my dad smashed my xbox 360 before but we didnt have a great relationship so instead of doing that to whatever your.mom got the kid pretend to smash it
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mumma_0fo2
I would say I smashed it and put everything in my safe that way money wont be wasted
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thebthatdontcare
That’s a little extreme, and to me just teaching your son it’s okay to break shit when mad
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brownsugarluv
Your feelings are never wrong. It’s how you express them.. I hope things work out for everyone to be happy. 💓
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dtrimew16
I really appreciate your opinions. There’s been so much going on and I made to think that I’m too lenient about things. My husband and I are basically like roommates and he is not nice to me unless he wants some. Enough is enough
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beetlejuice_beetlejuice_beetlejuice
Oooof. Time to put your foot down about EVERYTHING.
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tittysprinkles
I agree with all of what's been said that's to much take it away find other ways to get through to him smashing it teaches him nothing but anger issues
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scam822
I mean I would’ve just had my son give my mom the headset and tell make him tell her That he’ll be back to get them when he learns to behave. So at least they’re out of the house.
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beetlejuice_beetlejuice_beetlejuice
Also, I suggest not listening to the woman who can barely control her own child 😂
Talk to him. Do whatever is necessary and in the best interest of your child whether it be grounding or counseling to get to the bottom of the situation.
Talk to him. Do whatever is necessary and in the best interest of your child whether it be grounding or counseling to get to the bottom of the situation.
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bodybycheetos
How inconsiderate to your mom. I agree about having him pay your mom back for that. Having him break things won't help any. Something is obviously going on with him. If he won't talk to you, maybe a school councilor or finding one outside of school if he needs to talk.
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abcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxyandz
I don’t agree with smashing it but I do see where your husband is coming from. If you guys have already tried everything maybe he’s desperate to get through to him and that’s just what he thought of doing.. I would have thrown them in the trash in front of him and taken them out later and hid them so he thought they were really gone.. You have all the right to be upset but I wouldn’t be as fucken exaggerating as these moms and call it abuse and go off on your husband. Have him apologize to your mom and when your son is behaving better make him buy him a new set
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kush_queen420
No your not in the wrong at all if you act like that something has to be done and a little talk or some counseling won’t do shit I’ve done it myself money is money you can’t take it to the grave next thing you know they’ll be robbing banks he has to take you seriously 💯 if your not drastic they think they can walk all over you some person getting payed to tell you what you wanna hear isn’t the answer materialistic shit don’t matter him listening is what matters if they know you will give in they shit on you over and over 💯🤷🏼♀️ kids don’t what’s best for them
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kush_queen420
@jellybeans33, yes she can be mad I read it lol but that won’t change what he did
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jellybeans33
@kush_queen420, ah I see. But still I think it’s a extreme over reaction. If it was something the parents bought them selves it’s a different story.
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kush_queen420
@jellybeans33, true but you have to think of the outcome not the stuff sucks that she wasted the money but if he wasn’t acting right before x mas he shouldn’t have had one
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sherrynygirl
Why not just take the devices away and put in your closet “that isn’t a normal action for a parent to show his child “ talk with him ask him “your son what’s bothering him” and separately pull your husband aside and tell him You don’t approve of this extreme,!just my opinion “people think kids don’t have right s or issues at times so better to have communication
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massgirl
Money aside I feel like this is straight up emotional abuse. Making him do it himself will only cause further resentment and cause his behaviors and defiance to escalate. Have you tried taking him to counseling.
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whereswaldo
I’d take that hammer to my husband 🤷🏻♀️. I’d be pissed. It also likely didn’t teach your kid anything. He’s acting up for a reason, find the root cause first and truthfully it may simply be he has too much time on his hands and needs some volunteer jobs or maybe he’s being bullied at school and doesn’t feel he can express it. Destroying shit is not the answer.
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cams
That’s crazy and not at all rational. And frankly I’d be questioning my husbands mental health if he suggested/did that. Not healthy in the least.
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little_mommy_of_3
Yes I would absolutely be upset. That is a totally inappropriate punishment not to mention destroying a gift your mom paid for..
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beetlejuice_beetlejuice_beetlejuice
No.
I'd make him drive his ass to your mom's and give her the money for the headset.
I'd make him drive his ass to your mom's and give her the money for the headset.
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Talk to him. Do whatever is necessary and in the best interest of your child whether it be grounding or counseling to get to the bottom of the situation.